Back Fence Wisdom.

Back Fence Wisdom.

Back in the day when most people lived in a rural environment, where the yards were not surrounded by 6 foot fences. You could see the back yards of all your neighbors and as we all knew each other it tended to spark neighborly conversations.

 We would spend hours in pleasant conversation  that spanned everything from cabbages to kings.  one neighbor named Glenn  was a well-read, self-taught man... just knowing him was a reward in its self.

One day, while ranting some self-righteous commentary about individuals I was doing business with, Carl's brother came up. His name was Bubba (truth) and he had the tact and demeanor of an old time tobacco chewing country boy, if you know what I mean.
 
He'd sit just a listening and a chewing,  and at a just the right moment would declare his truth as he saw it… speaking slowly, deliberately, and spitting periodically for emphasis.

When I paused from my bad-mouthing  Bubba. Said;

 "Have ya ever noticed, (spit) when ya got a finger pointin' out at someone, (spit)  thar's three fingers a  pointin' back at yerself!" (spit!)

I  told Bubba that he had just saved me thousands of dollars. He gave me such wisdom right there at the fence that I didn't have to go off to India and study with some foreign guru!

I am still amazed at how in that one little moment, that such a statement could changed the way I thought and subsequently changed my life. I started to think about what I was saying to and about others.

It is true, whatever we say about others, for the most part, is a reflection of that which we don’t like about ourselves. When I talk down others I am really talking down about myself.
 
Now I Hold my tongue while I consider  kinder, gentler words to come to mind, they are always there. On that day, I began to really look at myself and be truthful about what I want to invest in, how I create my life, and my relationships.

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I no longer look, selflessly, for payoffs, rewards and attention in relationships. From that time on I  look at what I can say that also elevates those I am  speaking with.

They you speak to and about others especially those in your team can make the difference in your success or failure. Remember you cannot do it by your self. Therefore your success is dependent on team members that produce from desire not from scolding.

LIVE YOUR DREAMS…do not let anything distract you from your goals.

From The Heart

Elwood
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