Is Disguising Friend Requests For "Business Purposes" Devious?

I ONLY do business with people who are first my friends.

You make a great point Tonie.

The reason so many people are on some social networks on the internet is obvious.... to earn their living or at least make extra money on the side, so it should come as no surprise when an online friend might mention it at some point.

When they shove it in your face right as you become friends however, it is kind of like going on the first date and having them start making out with you at the door when you come to pick them up.

Pretty gross!

About the "mine is better than yours" comment, it's quite true if you're comparing apples to apples, because a jungle juice is a jungle juice, and so many other programs are similar, no matter how you look at it.

There are some things to consider though when you're comparing opportunities.  Because you may be comparing apples to oranges without knowing it.

The way a business is structured drives the behavior of people in the field to their benefit, or to their detriment. 

There are 5 pillars to look for in a "good and ethical" network marketing company that would serve anyone to be aware of.  It's a bit lengthy to go into here, but these 5 pillars help you pinpoint a good company and run away from a bad one as if it were the "Marketing Plague of the Century".

These 5 pillars actually favor the success of the distributor, representative (or whatever the company calls their special little names... lol)

Anyhow, it's well worth your time to learn what the 5 pillars are.  If you'd like to know more, just ask. (...but I'm not going to shove it in your face. :)

Your Friend,

Randy Enman (BN Podcasts - Radio Randy)

http://randyndenise.successin10steps.com/

Great insight Tonie

You've made some great points, Tonie.
I've seen this great video once that compared social networking with going to a party, then making friends and then in the conversation the friends would find out what you are doing for a living.

There should always be a process involved, just as in your ''19th hole'' golf analogy.
How long of a process? It all depends as long as we understand that ''My deal is better than yours'' should not be part of it. And...the process cannot start with...''Take a look at my deal'' either.

I appreciate you,
Daniela Riess

Business or Pleasure or Both - Well Done

Hello Tonie. Been around the block a few times myself. I hate "sell"; in your face tactics. On the other hand I like to buy from people I trust and like. By definition that means I must find a way to get to know them better so that I can assertain whether or not I can trust them. Being a newbie, I do believe this forum will allow each of us to establish enough rapport so that trust, business and pleasure can become a hallmark of ethical respect for all. I borrowed a phrase from Jones of Toledo: "What I want for myself; I want for everybody." Here's to your prosperity. Glenn 

Missing the Point?

I Do not beleive that social networking is about spreading the good news of your business opportunity where ever and when ever possible. If you want to write an article about your best business oportunity thats fine. The rest of the comunity can choose to read it and comment on it if they want to or they can choose to ignore it.

Randy Enman made a good comment... "When they shove it in your face right as you become friends however, it is kind of like going on the first date and having them start making out with you at the door when you come to pick them up."... I see that happen all too frequently on other social sites and it is creeping in here and I hope it does not get as bad as other places.

Tonie you said this, "In the off-line business world when you invite a "friend" for a game of golf to socialize and get to know each other better all parties know that a subtle bit of business will find it's way into the conversation during the course of the day, may it be at the 19th hole..."...

That is great you are already friends so discussing business would be a natural thing to do.

But would you invite someone you just met to the club to play a round of golf and stuff your business up his nose for eighteen holes,... I hope not.

I too had an offline business all of my life and I played golf at least five times a week. Thirty percent of my business came off of the golf course. Never once did I talk about my business unless I was asked " What do you do for a living"... I would answer that question and drop the subject.  If the they wanted to know more I would invite them to my office to come see what I do.

http://www.MagneticSponsoring.com/perry Mike Dillard and Perry belcher made a couple of videos on this very subject.

Social networking is about branding yourself as a professional who cares about other people. When trust is built up with other people they will they will drawn to you the person and they will ask " what do you do for a living"  Then you can invite them over to your house [Blog/Website]to see what you do for a living.

I am anxious to see how others feel about this subject. Let us know!!

Grant Logan

AMEN!

"I must confess though I do get a little hot under the collar with the self-righteous attitude of some of the people on these platforms, fortunately they are in the minority.."  AMEN!  I hate it when people are right in your face and only there to sell, sell, SELL!  One of the best things I learned being a part of this group is how to offer yourself up as a servant, with nothing expected in return.  Having an abundant attitude, one knowing you are loved and understood, sets oneself up for success, no matter what.  Anyone can take that attitude, attract others who are meant to be with them and make a team of leaders who will in turn, lead others and help them to their prospective successes.  This is what it is all about.  Teamwork and trust.  This is the core of a realtionship that could last a lifetime.

All the Best,
Your Friend,

Alicia Bozza

http://profitanyway.com

Violation Of Trust....

Thanks for all the comments, we are really getting some good input here. I really feel that a person shoving his business into your face is violating your trust.

And nobody ever does business with somebody they don't trust, there is definitely a right and wrong way of doing it.

Tonie

You asked for a little advice. And it looks like you got it.  And I must say Awesome insight by all.  If you think about it if you want to get more you have to be more.  Shoving a Business Op in some ones face is not being more.

Your friend for liffe

Juanita Waterman

Great topic!

I see this happening on the other Social Networking sites out there and it can be quite tempting when you first get on the sites. I have learned alot about using these sites to build friendshipos and businesses from Mike, Perry and a young man named Jonathan Budd. All talk about the attraction marketing concept and just being real with people like you SHOULD be "OFFLINE".

All Great Incite!

There is a wealth of great information on social networking coming out daily.  If you take the time to learn how to do it properly, then you will have more than enough people inquire about what is is that you do. 

Devious? Deceitful !

Or do you find it more acceptable that I pretend to be your friend and then "deviously" ambush you with a business opportunity down the line when your defenses are lowered.

I have seen people pretend to be your friend, offer you free advice, ebooks etc., tear your company apart and when they have you at the point you're devastated by what their interpretation is of your business (which they call the truth)  THEN they invite you to join their "perfect" company.  Talk about devious.

I like your attitude of being up front.  Much, much more of an honest approach to building a business.

To your success,

Joyce Penner

http://joycepenner.wordpress.com