1 Thing That Stops ME From Success and How I Assume YOu As WELL

1 Thing That Stops ME From Success + 3 Areas Of My Life It Rules

Over the weekend I had some time to reflect on some things that were affecting me in my life. I was sitting on the couch thinking to myself, “What’s really stopping me from ultimate success in my life?” I know it’s something deeper than just taking certain actions throughout my day so I began to ponder about this idea.

It started on Saturday.  I was speaking with my dad about how I was having a challenging time with the fact that my fiancé has a little 3 year old, and how I’m having to get used to the crying and all the other little things a three year old goes through.

My dad instantly started telling me how I’m playing a losing game and how he didn’t understand why I would date a girl with a kid in the first place. He was saying things that were surely not helping me out or making me feel good about the decision I had made.

Long story short, I got off the phone not feeling too good about myself. After a day had passed I was once again around my fiancé’s child listening to a three year old be a three old. I started to think about what my dad had told me.

I was looking for something deeper though. I began to ponder deeper into this idea. I soon realized something I think may be holding me back in my entire life. I realized first of all that the way I felt had nothing to do with my fiancé or her child, but it actually had everything to do with me wanting approval from my dad.

I was feeling bad about myself because I couldn’t understand why I couldn’t just have the support from my father  My dad’s a great guy, I’m not saying he’s bad for saying this. I realized though that in reality it was me that choose to feel the way I felt after my dad made those comments.

If I didn’t care what he thought or if I didn’t attempt to seek his approval, I would have never allowed his idea or thoughts to affect the way I felt.

As I began to dig deeper into this concept of seeking approval I realized that this same theory was affecting other areas in my life - both with my relationships and with my business. I realized that I have been holding back on what I’m really capable of in my life and in relationships because there are things I have not done and also that I have not allowed myself to completely be me.  Why? Because I was afraid of what someone else would think of me or what they would say.

I realized that I’ve not done certain thing in business because of my insecurity or wanting approval. I also realized there were little things in my relationships that were affecting me from completely opening up and being me.

Now that I’ve realized what’s really holding me back it’s just a matter of learning how to deal with it and overcome this condition that I have set in my consciousness of wanting approval from others.

I feel the first step to overcoming insecurities and approval issues is to address them upfront when you become aware of them. I had heard at one time to flaunt insecurities and to actually joke about them to yourself because it will change the way you think about them.

So this is simple when it comes time for me holding back or feeling a certain way because I’m wanting approval or caring about what someone else thinks. I just need to flaunt it by just telling myself or even telling the other person what’s going on in my head and do it any way.

So the lesson here is to learn what’s stopping you from the best life you can possibly have and make corrections. For me it’s caring too much about what someone else may think of me or wanting approval from someone else that holds me back from so much in my life.

I hope by me sharing this personal information to the world it helps you to open up and find ways that are deeper than you actually thought that are holding you back in your life. Success is deeper than the outer game. If you’re not right with you being you any type of success is tough to come by.