Dr.Phil Sebastian The Quest for MY DREAM

 
 
The Quest For My Dream
 
I have always wondered why I have had such great dreams and not been able to realize them fully...yes have accomplished a lot in my life but am not where I want to be in life.
 
In studying Les Browns video about the Seven Levels Of Awareness, I can see where I have missed the mark and need to go.
 
The last few years I have been studying a lot on God, Infinite Intelligence, Higher power, Source...Creator...however you want to call...
 
There is more that I need to study than Spiritual Growth...
 
There is Financial Growth, Growth in Love Relationships, Personal and Professional Development, and Health.
 
So one of the things I need to do is to identify where my thoughts are going in those categories.
 
And this is where the levels of awareness come in.
 
The first level is Identified as Animal...unfortunately this is where I have been living a lot of my life.
It is the level of reacting to life and letting life control me. I will go around wondering
"What's wrong with me?" In this level I would blame other people and conditions in my life for not achieving my dream.
 
It is like getting resentments when I could not get my way or things were not going right.
 
The healthy way of handling things is to catch myself in those unhealthy reactions and to let them go immediately and not carry them around all day.
 
In other words ...life happens to me...not from me.
 
Dennis Waitley said it well..."Some people let life happen, but there is a small number that MAKE life happen."
 
The second level of awareness is the MASS AWARENESS...this is where we blindly go along with the crowd..."Everybody is doing it!" It is sheep mentality...or a good example are the lemmings of Norway ...small rodents that by the tens of thousands for some reason will run into the North Sea en mass and drown.
 
Another example of mass mentality is the mantra...get an education...get a job...work forty years...retire a year before you die...
 
Social Security was designed in the days where the average number of years after you started S.S. at 65 was three years...a workable model back then.
 
An example is given on the research on 6 month old babies...a baby was given a food he did not like and he would spit it out but when put at a table with other babies that were eating that same food...the baby would look around at the others and then begin to eat the food that he disliked.
 
So we are wired to a certain extent to have a MASS AWARENESS.
 
The next level of awareness is ASPIRATION...this is where I get stuck! I have been living in mass awareness and all of a sudden I realize there is something more to life.
 
I am great at making a mind movie and developing my why and that is as far as I have gone...I have really not known what to do next.
 
I have the desire but have not made the change.
 
The language of ASPIRATION is "I'm going to get around to it"
 
A story was told where a nephew was giving the eulogy to his dead uncle and someone said that he died alone in his room...the nephew said "he did not die alone ...he died with a room full of I'm gonna's around him.
 
This is a level of awareness here we attract others that are seeking help with their dreams and aspirations and we will go all out to "help" them only to bump into them a couple or three weeks later and ask them how they are doing with our suggestions. The answer will often come back " I haven't got around to that yet."
 
Fear and uncertainty keep me in ASPIRATION
 
I have been stuck in ASPIRATION...getting ready to get ready
 
INDIVIDUAL EXPRESSION is the next level...it is where I begin to recognize my own uniqueness...and my potential...it is where I can look at the mirror and say "I love you '" to the person I see in the reflection.
 
It is the place that I identify the gap between where I am and where I want to go...
 
The thing about it is that it is tough to get to this stage of awareness as we lose support here...in ASPIRATION we have a lot of support from those like us or that are in mass mentality.
 
When we try to break free at this stage we will inevitably meet with failure...it is part of the process...the learning experience and also the spot where we get the " I told you so."
 
It is a place where being overly concerned about what others think of us ...has to go.
 
Achievers will be found at this stage and and will often appear "crazy" in what they are doing.
 
It is here that Eric Hoffer's quote says it best..."No matter what our achievements might be we think well of ourselves only in rare moments. We need people to bear witness against our inner judge, who keeps book on our shortcomings and transgressions and our failures. We need people to convince us that we are not as bad as we think we are."
 
We find ourselves in failure...people looking at us like we are crazy...we have doubt and uncertainty and a voice reminds of our past failures...it is here that Maslo said "We step forward into growth or backward into safety"
 
This is where we move forward and LIVE INTO OUR DREAM
 
We fail all the time and it is NECESSARY. We literally fail our way to success.
 
My friend D.Scott McGregor in his book " The Courage To Act " points this out many times.
 
What keeps us in ASPIRATION is "What if I try this and I fail?"
 
This takes us to the next level of awareness...DISCIPLINE...the ability to give ourselves a command and then follow through with it..."Do it again even if we don't feel like it"
 
As I said before a person in ASPIRATION ...is living into their dream.
 
A person living in DISCIPLINE is living FROM their dream...they believe they already have it...it just has not manifested yet...but I am bearing witness to its birth through my actions ...right now.
 
"There is a level of order that discipline brings to your life but also a context for the content of your life that allows you to be an unstoppable force"
 
Socrates said "the undisciplined life is an insane life."
 
A person at the level of discipline is willing to fail in order to learn.
 
Now we come to the sixth level of awareness and that is EXPERIENCE.
 
This is where the rubber meets the road...we can have all the knowledge in the world but it means nothing until it is applied.
 
"Most people fail because they don't know that they don't know and they think they know and it is a rare combination of arrogance and ignorance."
 
So it is here that is new territory for me in my development ...it is taking a new idea and stepping out and acting on that idea. This is where there is success or failure ...either one is a learning experience...
 
By doing the action we change the conditions of life around us.
 
It is the change in the circumstances and conditions which is the feedback that is the learning model...and then we can say that we KNOW.
 
The seventh awareness level is MASTERY. This is where we have achieved the calm confidence of a master ...remember in the beginning I mentioned the Spiritual, love relations, financial, personal and professional development and our health.
 
The goal is to master all of these not just one or two so we must be aware of our thoughts toward these aspects of our lives and remain in balance.
 
So we really need to be clear in our vision because confusion, fear and doubt happen if we are not...clear vision connects us to our purpose.
 
We have to determine what is really important in our lives...and is nonnegotiable
 
Or vision connects us to our goals...we see our benchmarks in order to manifest that vision in our life.
 
Only 3% of people write down their goals and their clear vision and they are the ones that accomplish 3 to 4 times as much.
 
Studying the great teachers past and present is also the secret that all those that have achieved their dreams agree.
 
If we take these 7 levels of awareness ...ANIMAL...MASS...ASPIRATION...INDIVIDUAL EXPRESSION...DISCIPLINE...EXPERIENCE...MASTERY...if we take them seriously ...take them to heart...we WILL achieve the financial freedom and lifestyle we have all dreamed of.
 
DrPhil Sebastian
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