Do You Ooze Confidence?
Read More: Some people just ooze with confidence! I’m sure you have bumped into them or maybe you are one of them.
What can we attribute it to? Are they of the Bubbly Blue personality or the Forward Red? Sometimes the quietest person can have the greatest self esteem and oozing confidence.
I hesitate to admit it, but sometime I can feel and show great confidence and other times I want to walk down another aisle in the store to avoid people because I don’t feel so engaging at that time. Oops, I just tattled on myself. :)
There are things we can practice in our life that will enhance our self confidence. Quite possibly, you may have these particular things in place as you interact with others. If not, then let this be motivation for us all to spruce up on your relational skills.
1. When greeting others, look them in the eye and smile big. A friendly smiling person always lends a bright moment to someones day. It conveys “I am happy, I like myself, and I like you!”
2. When shaking a person’s hand make sure it is a good hearty solid handshake, without hurting them, of course. A wimpy limp handshake does not spell confidence.
3. When someone gives you a compliment, just appreciate it and say “thank you.” There is no need to down play their genuineness by making a remark such as, “Oh, this old thing.”
When my daughter was an exuberant 3 year old (many years ago as she has her own 3 year old now) we attended a baby shower where she was complimented on her pretty blue dress. Her reply, as she pranced and twirled around? “Thank you! We got it at the Goodwill!” :)
4. When someone praises you for your accomplishments be careful not to brag. Bragging only shows your lack of self esteem or respect. Just receive the honor with humility and defer your success to someone else.
5. When things aren’t going so great for you, refrain from bringing up your problems in every conversation. Put a positive twist on an adverse circumstances and look for the good instead of focusing on the negative. Complainers and whiners are not good company, don’t you agree?
6. When you encounter rejection or make a mistake, don’t let it paralyze you. Let it be an opportunity to learn and grow, to become better not bitter. Be careful to not have the victim mentality and blame someone or something for your misfortunes. Own up, realizing you are not a failure, but this type of situation can help you become your best self.
7. Lastly, and most importantly create a self talk that facilitates self confidence. A powerful self talk can over ride any negativity you may have towards yourself and how you behave when interacting with others.
Life is full of blessings and also ups and downs. We may feel defeated and discouraged. We get overworked, tired and even moody at times. When I was a moody adolescent girl, people always knew how I felt cause I wore my feelings all over my face. It’s a good thing that we grow up and out of our self-absorbed childish behaviors.
If you ever feel your self confidence lagging, realize it is not a permanent situation and be sure these seven motivations are present in your life. If they are, you will overcome any stumbles and glide along smoothly, emerging with oozing confidence on the other side. Every experience can be a time for growing into our best confident self.
Blessings,
Lynn Jones
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this will increase your confidence
Dear Lynn, I really enjoyed reading this article. It makes you think of how we can all improve. Our presence and posture and even the way we speak play a big role in how others will view us and even how we view ourselves. : )
Confidence is Attractive
I will try to apply the Hand Shake one. I have never ever given thought to my hand shake. I usually hug but every now and then a Handshake is better. Thank you for this timely Information
I Can Totally Relate Lynn !
Confidence is a Great skill to use in life and in business people love to be lead by someone who has confidence rather than a persone that has no confidence. In order to be a strong leader you must have confidence.
Paralyzed by mistakes...
Yes, Lynn, mistakes can paralyze us quickly ... I think sometimes I get paralyzed just thinking about making a mistake ... creating the problem before I even get started.
Very Good Article Lynn!
I appreciate your candor and can relate to some of the points you made. The seven points are interesting, and if cultivated, can surely build self-esteem and confidence. Being of a positive mindset is one of the best things any of us can do. It can help us weather the most difficult of times and more fully enjoy the good times. Yes, let the good times roll!
I know what you mean
Thanks for this :-)
Great post Lyn
Hi Lyn,
So true .... when you look at a person when talking to them I have found that they seem to respond in a more positive manner too.
Receiving complements with grace is another one I like...had trouble with it in the past.
Great post Cheers
Bryan
Knowing that I'm responsible ...
Yes Lyn,
I 100% agree with you especially on the sixth point about owning up whenever we are corrected. There is no need for feeling bitter, it's good to realize that there's always room for improvement. However it's sometimes very difficult to deal with negative minded people, sometimes you are not even on the wrong but they make you feel inadequate, this is where self talk comes in handy. In addition to this, the network marketing industry provides a wonderful opportunity for personal growth in many different aspects.
Thanks again Lyn.
Great Post Lynn!
Hi Lynn,
Thanks for such a great post. As a follow up to Bonny's comments on points 6 and 7,when we find ourselves in a tough situation, we must always look for something good or beneficial about the situation. As tough as it might be sometimes to find, it does exist. Also, a self talk example, whenever I am about to give a presentation, and I say to myself, "I like myself, I am the best or I feel great, a few times over and over to myself,I walk in with all the confidence I need. For more self development info http://www.dyllisnicol@blogspot.com
Believe in yourself and discipline your mind!
Self-esteem isn't bragging about how great you are. It's more like quietly knowing that you're worth a lot (priceless, in fact!). It's not about thinking you're perfect — because nobody is — but knowing that you're worthy of being loved,accepted and respected. BELIEVE you are a good person. We need to have positive attitudes and feelings at any cost and we discipline and attract ourselves to positivity. When you are positive, you feel good, When you are negative, you feel bad. So many nuggets in this article. Lynn, thanks for posting this brillant article. Great Value
Confidence Builder
Hi Lynn,
Really enjoyed this post These are so very true, all seven points. Whenever you look into the eyes of the person you are talking with, they will do one of two things. They will either look at you with respect and understanding what you have to say, or, they will look away feeling uneasy and without much self-confidence. A hardy handshake also goes a long way in self-esteem.
Items 3 and 4 kind of go together. We should always thank a person for their praise or graditude, but never let the praise go to our heads. I agree on points 5 and 6. Point 7 is very important. A self-talk or why is something we all need. Thank you so very much for sharing these points with us all and keep up the great work.
Bud Corwin bud85296@yahoo.com
Good points to apply daily
Very relevant Lynn. Your article reminds me about perception and impression. The peception people have of us from the impression we express via our attitudes and behaviors are covered very well in the seven points you outline. Very good reminder. Thank you.
Self Talk is important
Hi Lynn!
Thanks so much for the great article - sometimes it's easy to forget the little things like a good, solid handshake!
I especially agree with having very positive self-talk. I recommend Shad Helmstetter's book "What to say when you talk to yourself" to everyone out there - it's a real eye-opener on self-talk.
Thanks again,
Your tips
Thanks Lynn,
very good tips everyone can follow.