Want to be a People Magnet? Here are Nine Ways to Attract Anyone

What do you think attraction is?  Is it based on how you look?  How you dress?  How much make up you use?  How long your hair is?  Where you live?  The type of car you drive?

Let’s be frank.  Initially we all base our perceptions of others by what we first see.  But that isn’t where the real attraction lay. 

Behind the façade, or and Chris Rock quipped,”…your representative…” there is the real person, you.  Your thoughts, the fashion of your speech, your posture, your facial expressions, what you say, and what you don’t say, that “inner” you, is what’s really driving your life, and your relationships. 

Oh, sure, you can dud yourself out with the latest fashion trends, live in the trendiest neighborhood, and the sexiest job, and drive the top-of-the-line SUV.  But if you have the personality of a goat…

In order to have incredible attraction, you must to develop a magnetic mindset.  Here are some simple ways to help you develop a “magnetic mind.”

• Be yourself
  Stop imitating the images you see in the media and in your personal contacts.  Whatever flaws that you have, let them be there.  They are a part of you. Fix them as you go. Develop your leadership by being the example.  Forgive yourself of your prior trespasses.  Forgiveness covers a multitude of sins.  Forgive others as well.  Do one positive thing for someone today, and do it in the knowing that they can never repay you.  Do this for 21 days and it will become a habit. Take a piece of paper and write down all of your characteristics you can think of, good and bad.  Be brutally honest.  Then take another piece of paper and write down all of the characteristics you want to have—in other words, draw the picture of yourself, this character, of that you want be.  Start taking actions to become that person.  Let go of the things on the first list.  This is not fakery.  It’s called growth.

• Speak with authority
  Turn off you ego and open up your soul.  Speak from the heart and mean it.  President Lincoln once said, "Better to keep your mouth closed and be thought a fool than to open it and remove all doubt."  Your team will never follow a wimp.

• Close your mouth and open your ears.
  Your opinion is irrelevant.  The other person is trying to convey a message to you.  Stop waiting for a pause in the conversation to inject your personal opinion.  Listen to understand, not to respond.  It’s ok to check in or repeat a thought back.  It demonstrates that you are paying attention.  Sit attentively and the other person will eventually get his/her thoughts across to you.

• Laugh:  Careful.  It’s contagious.
  When you yawn. Guess what?  Don’t you notice that the person next to you or talking to you lets out a yawn, too?  It’s an unexplainable fact.  The same goes for laughing.  If you are in a room full of people, or just a few, smile at first, snicker, laugh under your breath, then just let one fly!  You will be surprised at the reaction.  There will be at least one other person that will laugh with you, if not the whole room.  If they laugh at you, that’s ok, too.  At least you got them to laugh.

• Smile.
  Smile.  Smile because you’re thankful.  Smile because you are blessed. Smile because you know you have something positive to give back to the world.  Smile just because you can.

• Stop Whining.
  No one wants to be around a human complaint department.  Confide in the person that can actually help you solve your problem.  Broadcasting your ills to the world will kill your personal Nielson ratings and cancel your show—and your sales.

• Believe in your inner “magnet.”
  Belief creates the actual fact.  As you work on creating this character you have written for yourself earlier, you must believe that you are already there.  The actions you commit to get yourself into this character will follow.  Belief develops confidence. Leaders believe they can achieve the impossible.  Leaders allow others to be who they are, yet inspire change, through example. Leaders believe that by changing their own behavior and demonstrating success at it, they can positively change the behaviors of others.

• Open the book
  Allow people to come in and enjoy what you have to offer. Create positive relationships with other like-minded people.  Be open to create authentic relationships.  Kill your ego and open your heart. You will be surprised at the number of connections you make, multiplying your network.

• Stand with your head held high, young man…
  Slouching with your head hung over makes people believe there is something wrong with you.  Walk straight and hold your head up.  Look people in the eye when you speak to them.  This commands authority.  It will also increase your sales.

You don’t need the latest gadget or trinket to magnetize yourself.  Learn how to be who you are.  Speak with authority.  Mute your speaker and listen more.  Laugh and smile more.  Believe in yourself.  Open the door to your life.  Walk in the knowing that you are great.  These are gifts you can’t buy in any department store or dealership. Give these gifts to someone you know, today.

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