Shoulders to Stand On—Finding the Right Mentors to Help You Build Your Online Business

Finding a Mentor

Hello from Montana:

A good mentor, teacher or parent hopes that the student will rapidly outgrow their instruction and move ahead. No one mentor can provide all the answers, but the right one will come along at the right time if you are open and asking.

Good Luck in your endeavors,

Judy Helm Wright aka Auntie Artichoke, family relationship author and keynote speaker
http://www.AskAuntieArtichoke.com

Qualified Mentors

Well said, so many "mentors" and coaches aren't really qualified. I like the statement you posted, "How successful has this person been? How successful is she or he now? You want someone with a proven track record who also successfully rides the fast-changing world of online business."

I know financial planners that are broke and advising their clients how to "invest." Thanks for the pertinent info!

My mentor could not help me

When I first started in this industry my first mentor could not help. He was only 29 years old. Already earned 3 Million dollars in the company he was with.

He suggest old school going through friends and family. His smallest check was $9K using this strategy. It did not work for me and he knew it would not.

He told me had the most close minded warm market he ever meet. He was trying to get me to use my mind to figure it out.

There are so many wonderful leaders and gurus out there. No everyone is right for you. They can only teach you what made them successful.

You have to find the right guru that is perfect for you.

Respectfully,
Chris Brown
818-942-5816
http://prostarprofits.com/html/mlmtip
http://prostarprofits.com

How good is your mentor?

You can learn from a good mentor and you can learn from a lousy mentor. With all the TONS of training online today, especially with the New and Improved Mike Dillard WWT, do you REALLY need a mentor? I have found, sadly, that mentors are more interest in their own recruiting and the bigger they get, the less attention you get.
It's a fact. I know several people in my deal that say they rarely if ever get a call or so much as a personal email.

But think about it. If these "heavy hitters" are raking in so many people, how can they provide any meaningful one-on-one?

My advice is to find someone just like you! Just starting out and needs a break because if you are focused and have the drive, you can go it alone or...

Decide this ain't for me...

l just wrote a blog post about choosing the right Leader

When I decided to start in this business and already made a choice what system to join,I had to solve many problems since l am from Serbia and many online options were unavailable for me.I had so many obstacles to cross.. During that time I had many questions to ask and was trying to find people from FB who were already in this business and promoted themselves as Leaders and Mentors.I've sent them messages, to many of them, but didn't get any response!! Can you believe that! I thought they should grab me as I was already asking about the business, so I was their potential customer, isn't that exactly why they are there?
So, the first person that replied and was very open to talk and give me answers, became my Mentor and I am thankful ,cause he is always there for me. So, he taught me not only how to be good marketer, but how to be a good Leader too. And that's the only way to be successful! I mean, what's use of having a person in your downline if you dont make him successful as well ,so he can stay in the business, make income for himself, make income for you and teach more people to earn as well ?!

here is my blog post, l know you'll like it :http://milenamlmexpert.wordpress.com/2010/03/page/3/

List of mentors to select.

Where do i get the list of mentors to make choice that suit me and my business?okonta chuks

Your mentors message is the most important thing!

Once you find that mentor who you trust and put your confidence in to help you better yourself online and to give you the best tips and advice to succeed in this industry... please remember the message that your mentor gives you. Your responsibility is for the message. If you're preaching violence to unstable people, for example, you bear some of the burden of whatever wrongs they may commit as a result. You should always try to be aware of any unusual degree of influence you might have with your potential audience and avoid directing them toward actions that could lead to harm. Beyond that, you're not responsible for whatever they may choose to do with your message. It is not your fault if they screw up, and you don't get the credit if they succeed wildly. Over the years that I've been putting out newsletters, there have been hundreds of thousands of people subscribed at various times. Many of them have done nothing at all with what I've written. Others have used it to help create the lives they want for themselves and their families. None of that is on me. I shouldn't feel guilty about the first, or proud of the second. I'm very happy when it's helpful, but I don't make choices for anyone else. Without that control over the choice, I don't get to take the blame or the credit. You cannot change someone else's circumstances, beliefs or actions. You don't control their priorities, so you can't control their feelings. You can give them information. And That's it! To assume anything more is hubris, pure and simple. The best you can do is point them in a true direction. It may not be the right direction for them. But no path is right for every person. They have to make that decision. This assumes, of course, that you're teaching rather than entertaining. If you're an entertainer, don't worry much. If you fail, they'll just go somewhere else.

Anthony de Mello tells of a man who remarked, "There is one thing even God can't do: That is Please everyone." Don't bother trying to do it yourself. If you dislike the idea of others disagreeing, that will create stress about how you say what you have to say. And no matter what you do, some folks won't agree or like it. The ones who are looking for exactly your message, however, will be cheated out of what you have to offer. This isn't a philosophical point. It applies to personal tastes, goals, desires, interests and styles. It is as true of web design and 'how-to' information as of software develop mentor social commentary. Everything carries a message. .... It's all about clear communication. Keeping your focus on the reader. If you're in a 'how-to' field, focusing on getting the message across in the best way will result in better products, happier customers, and more money in your pockets. If you're talking about social issues, making sure you say clearly what you want to say means that more of the people who get the message will act on it. In those situations, or any other, you should consider disagreement as a good thing. Looking at it honestly is part of the effort to make your message the best it can be. If an idea is tested and holds up, that tends to show that you're on the right track. If you're shown an error in your message, you can correct it, which makes things better for everyone involved. That is possibly the most important result of keeping your focus on the reader: You never stop learning.

Enjoy!

Paul
http://www.partnerwithpaul.com/go/20710/BNart
http://www.talkbiznews.com

List of mentors

Hi Okonto Chuks

Regarding your question about where do you find a list of mentors-

I guess it's all about who you come across in your business and personal life dealings, both online and offline. It's also about who you feel a connection with and feel comfortable with. There are lots of ways to do business, and you and your mentor need to be thinking the same way!

There are lists of online experts and gurus on the internet, but often these guys have such big downlines, that they simply don't have the time to do lots of personal mentoring.

Sometimes you might find a great mentor/coach in your network marketing company, and that isn't always your upline/supervisor/manager - it could be another rep/distributor or someone in a different downline!

On the other hand, there are Online Network and Internet Marketing mentors/coaches, like me, who offer their knowledge, experience and advice to those who need it, for free. You're welcome to check out my website and blog to see if you think we could work together.

http://www.WorkTheMarket.net
http://AztecNetwork.wordpress.com

Happy searching!
Kathryn Wilson

Very Big and Important Topic..Finding a Mentor

This was my toughest challenge since I have and had the personality that I got mad at my Dad for touching my bike when I was learning to ride it.
It's OK Dad I got it..no Dad don't touch my bike and then I'd fall and get cut or whatever. Then Mom would come over and try to hold me..OH no are you OK?
Look Ma just get out of my way I'm ridin here!
Back on the bike and Dad touches my bike again...hey I got it and more bruises and cuts and over and over ..but it took me one day to learn to ride my bike.
Now I have a ten year old girl who Mom calls payback.
Same as I was so when she does anything it's right away hey, I don't need help...I got it.
She does whatever until she gets it.
Hard head like her Dad. Not always a good thing I've discovered in certain situations.
I'm 54 years young now and was an athelete in high school and College and for 20 years after.
I changed my thinking as a teenager because I had a coach in hockey when I was 13 who mentored me and taught me to become coachable.
I've been coachable ever since. But I still have that personality I was born with and when I started learning this IM stuff THE PROPER WAY 3 years ago when I found Dillard I tell you there where a number of self titled mentors who I wanted to rip their heads off.
With my old fashioned value system I was taught I was actually surprised ..not sure why ..that there where so many scum bags online.
So it took me two and a half years to find the right person(s) because we have a team building concept to build trust with.
I now follow and work with these folks because their values perfectly match up with mine and I trust them and vice versa.
Now it's been a tough road for a guy reinventing myself since being kicked to the curb in the job market at 50.
I will say I did most of the work myself and still do but when I need an answer on something I don't get it's nice to have folks who teach what they actually do daily and I trust.
From what I've seen so far though most big marketers and "guru" types only care about themselves.
Many don't hide that fact either.
Those are the ones to not follow.

I love this quote!

I know financial planners that are broke and advising their clients how to "invest."
This is so true. Thank you for sharing this insight! Gives people something to relate to.
Katrina van Oudheusden

A Custom Coach

I agree with all you say here. It's important that the client and the coach get on the same wave path or it can be a big waste of time for both of them.

I started my coaching again last July at: http://renegadeprofessionalhelp.com and found that most people who have signed up with me just wanted a person to guide them step-by-step to get their business on line or to develop one.

Some have little to no experience on the Internet and many needed help to just set up a filing system on their hard drive which nobody ever showed them. Thanks to remote access, I can show them on their computer how to get that done.

But my point is this, even though I have 30 years experience in the marketing industry, both on line and off line, and have many streams of income, most people I talk to just want to get the basics down so they can get into profit ASAP.

They are not joining me to join my business, even though many will become coaches with me as one of their streams of income, they are joining me to develop their business not mine.

I wish more coaches would have their client's best interest up front and stop thinking about themself and how much profit they can earn off other people.

Keep in mind that the more people you help to get what they want, the more you will get what you want. So the main target should always be on the client's needs.

Bob Andolina

Big track record or a real availability?

I am agree with this great article. The importance of the mentor in your success is major.
Nevertheless, a mentor that is already highly successful has a huge team and a lot of business projects running. So, he will probably do not have the time and availability to help you, as a newbie to start and set-up your business properly to be quickly on track.
So, I would suggest to choose a mentor with a good experience, not a huge track record, highly dedicated for his team and each and every member, giving one on one support. How a mentor having hundreds of team members could provide live support, could respond to you on the phone or give you feedback?
This highly successful mentor focus on team members that already have significant results and success. This is not at all to blame this choice. Days have just 24 hours, and at a point people have to make choice and select the most valuable way to spend their time

Also, how does this mentor will fit with your personality? Make a real due diligence, ask question directly to your "prospect mentor". He absolutelly should be able to respond to you quite promptly and show you his availability!

Good mentor prospection!

Lelia
http://Newmarketing4Dummies.com
http://LeliaRaynal4YourSuccess.com