How to Win Back your Future from the "Dream Stealers"

"Kia Kaha" in Maori means Be Strong Be True to Yourself

Make the Decision to Win and let Nothing stop you

Years ago I followed the current advice of the day, which was to tell anyone who would listen, what you wanted to do and achieve. This was supposed help you to enforce your dreams by sharing them. Bad move! I was soon mocked, put down and scorned. So demoralising! In-fact for many years my dreams were firmly buried. It was only in later years, when I held my dreams close to me, did I manage to finally take action towards them and grow. I realised I was ultimately responsible for myself. 

 There are so many people who just want to hold you back from moving forward. The thought of someone wanting to move out of their circle is uncomfortable for them. The response goes something like:

• Why do you want to do that?
• So you think your better than us
• You’re a loser, you will never do any good

 Their negativity is draining. These people are the ones who are down on anyone and everything. They have no enthusiasm, a limited mindset so they do not believe in their own success. If you let them, they can talk you out of your dreams.

To be successful and avoid such criticism, it is best to guard your dreams and ambitions closely. As Donald Trump says, “We all have to watch out for ourselves.” 

Bono, rock star, said in an interview, “Sing the melody line you hear in your head, remember you don’t owe anybody any explanations …” 

I found that it is better if you want to; tell only those you can really trust. If they are for you they will help lift you up. They need to be a special someone who believes in their future success and in yours. Look for positive forward thinking people to mix with so you too can be uplifted.

You need to block out the negative information or comments that come your way. Develop selective hearing. One piece of advice I heard recently was to create a positive “bubble” around you like a protective shield.

Some people find that it is better to move physically away so they can forge ahead without the negativity around them.

The difference between those who do it and those who don’t… is that those who do it, do it – and those who don’t, don’t.

I like the affirmation;  I have made the decision to win – and nothing can stop me now!