Mental Health Issues? Stop Being Lazy and Get on With Your Work!

I've had lots of people in my Primary Business who have been lazy. I've had people who have said they have done things and, like myself at times, lied about what they have done.

I thought I was a good motivator.   I empathiszed.  I put my self in my team's shoes, I shared from my personal understanding.  I thought I was a good listener.   Some of them grew, some of them achieved their goals, some of them quit.   I did my best.

I had good Personal Development Background.  Done loads.   Hell I used to be a Sunday School Teacher!  Youth Club Leader.   I even taught Self Esteem courses. And don't ask me about sexuality issues and the church!   I am a surviver.   I am here for everyone.  I give ... I give ... I give ....

A few years ago a friend joined my team who was having some Mental Health Issues.   I knew it would be the best thing for her!   She could choose when to work.   She could set her own goals.   It would be good for her!    Get her outside.   I was delighted.   I supported.

She had money issues ...

She was going through a relationship break up ...

Her dream of living in the country had nor worked out ...

She had some success with her business.   She had to move house.   She found it hard.

I believed I gave her good support.   I listened, I was patient, I helped her set goals.  I thought I understood.

Another friend has suffered from BiPolar for years.   I talk to her daily.  I give her support.   I understand it well.

A partner suffered from bad anxiety and again I am only starting to understand now what it was like ...

Recently, however, I am ashamed to say I have realised how bad my support has been.  I have not really understood what it is like to be in their shoes.

What's made a difference?   Why the sudden realisation?

I'm suffering my self.   My full-time job has got on top of me.   I have had enough.   I'm not blaming others.   It was a combination of things.    But a confident teacher of 17 years I am no more ...

I was signed off with work-related stress on 7th March.  Over 3 months ago!   I must be better now. Surely!

The truth is I felt a fake.   I have good days and bad days.   Days I can't motivate.   I want to do 5 things and do one.   Today I cried.   3 months later.   Need to more.   People say I'm looking well. That's good.  Or is it?   Do I want to?   Don't feel it inside ...

Had a great day this week. Spent time with my Parents.   Had dinner.   Stayed with my SIster.   Caught up with a Dear Friend.   Lunch with Sister.   Coffee with Parents.   Sounds Great!

It's good Weather.   In Scotland!   People tell me the answer is to get some sun!

It was!   Then my cigarette lighter in car Broke.   Can't charge my iphone now.   It died.   Couldn't Cope.

Had a fab day,  but did too much.  Got home.  Had a relapse.   Bit better today.

I have started attending a Stress Related Course.   1 in 6 people are suffering from Stress at the Moment.   1 in 2 will at some stage of their life.   Good!   I am not alone.

There are 2 Main Reasons I wrote this article. 

1.   I have Realised that When I Was Giving Good Support to My Friends I Wasn't Undertstanding Them.   That Humbles Me.

2.  I am just realising how so may people are suffering from Stress in their Jobs and How I Am Lucky to Have Actually Got Myself Signed Off and Have Some Time To Sort Myself Out

As someone who has his own Business Part-Time, I am grateful for the many advantages this can give me.   And I know many who have been delighted to 'sack the boss.'

I believe that, for many, Working From Home could either give them an additional income round their present job and take away with some of the fincancial stress. 

Or Working From Home might give them the Freedome from their Present Job Stresses and help them have a better life.

What about Me?

I am so grateful I have friends who are trying to understand me.   I am glad I have excellent support in my Primary Business and MLSP and Better Networker Communities.

But I want to be here for team members and friends, listen, guide and love ... but not believe I REALLY understand what they are going through.

That's my goal.   Is it yours too?

I'd love to hear what you think!

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