The Grass Is Greener on the Other Side, But It’s a Septic Field to Cross



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The Grass Is Greener on the Other Side, But It’s a Septic Field to Cross

There is a world of difference between knowing what to do and actually doing it.

I consider it a priviledge when people allow me to help them, and I love nothing more than  watching them succeed. I’m not necessarily talking about creating millionaires or top distributors in a particular network marketing company, though that is certainly a measure of success.

Nope, I’m talking about helping someone create their first video on Youtube, or structure their blog effectively, or narrow down the target market they want to focus upon, or create a capture page, or simply get organized so they know what path to take in their progress.

Yet as numerous as these examples of success are, I’m repeatedly reminded that there are still SO many people who have yet to discover their true potential, and there is nothing I or anyone else can do about it.

Many of them  have all the tools to be successful. They’re educated. They can communicate effectively. Some of them are compassionate and selfless, very capable of wielding true influence, and online fortune.

In fact, this vast and ever-expanding population of people who are coming online to create a sustainable legitimate online business (of any kind not just network marketing) even  include teachers, lawyers, real estate investors, middle management professionals, bankers and brick and mortar business owners.

What some of these people are missing is the ability to apply knowledge, specifically knowledge about their own self, at least in their quest for building an internet business. Without that skill, it doesn’t matter how much you know, you’llbe stranded in the infinite chasm I call a septic field.

It’s true, staying at home sitting in front of your computer for 90 minutes at a time (20 minutes off) is better than commuting to your tired monotonous job, way better. But I can attest that that pursuit can feel like you’re crossing a septic field to get there.

And until you discover how to cross that septic field, you will struggle. You will have setbacks, and there will be times when you lose hope.

However, those who do have the “stick-to-it-ive-ness” to apply the things they know enjoy not only tremendous changes in their income, but moreso in the way they feel about themselves, and their mindset toward business, and life in general.

For those that cross this septic field once, they move forward – fast – in all areas of their life. This includes other even more lucrative business ventures and collaborations.

So how do you take that giant step across the septic field toward the other, (money) greener side? How do you take that leap and join those on the other side who are now thriving rather than surviving?

Before I jump into all that, let me clarify that  these discussions ultimately end up being more about how you’ve lived your life up to this point, and how you will choose to live it in the future, as opposed to the correct way to market your products, services or business opportunity.

So I want to be clear here, you’re going to have to confront yourself in an honest and authentic way, and look into yourself. This, in and of itself, can be a challenge, but vitally important. I’m going to ask you some tough questions.

The dramatic transformations you see – like Mike Dillard having gone from waiting tables to millionaire in 18 months, and the collosal joint venture between Ann Sieg and Mike Klingler, and how Ferny and Ray went from obscure, albeit super intelligent engineers to freaks of SEO 2.0…well…it wasn’t a miracle pill. It wasn’t a superficial approach. It wasn’t a gadget or a system.

Real change always starts from within.  And that brings me to the first question, Have you made the decision to change? What are your reasons for that decision?

I regularly dismissed these BIG questions as the stuff of two bit carney hypnotist b.s. The kind of thing you might get from an old school upline at a home or hotel meeting, or a frustrated guidance counselor, or your dad, after you got busted smoking pot behind the school – again.

But then one day I realized that we “see” ourselves everyday, and we often don’t notice that we’re slipping. If we’re not careful, before long, the image we have of ourselves in our minds eye will not be in sync with reality.

Micro-Focus Your Future Vision

I read somewhere about how Mike Dillard made the most progress when he would make a list of the three to five things he had to accomplish each day. That if he didn’t he’d zombie out, get distracted and overall, waste his time.

So once you’ve identified your decision for change and your reason, the next question is What are the five most important and specific accomplishments you need to make in the next 90 days for you to be pleased with your progress?

Write them down. Then…make your daily list of one to three things (or three to five depending on the amount of time you have) to get done.

By the way, 90 days is totally arbritrary, you could have chosen 30 days or 180. Putting a deadline on something can be a double edged sword.

In one sense, it provides a goal, a necessary concern you might not otherwise have.

In another light, putting a deadline on something gives you an out and something to place blame on, a way to go back and un-do your decision and reason for change in the first place.

If you found it easy to identify five specific things you know have to occur between today and 90 days from now for you to be pleased with your progress, that’s a good sign. It means you are looking forward and have the proper future vision.

Now, micro-focus by making those daily one to three to-dos that will allow you to make adequate progress over the course of 90 days.

If you found it extremely difficult to come up with specific answers to this question, you’re not alone – don’t worry. It just means that your emphasis is not on your future vision. In order to make significant change; because we desire to cross that septic field to the green grass on the other side, we need to focus on looking forward.

People whose daily actions are focused on looking forward are continually growing. They are constantly taking on new and bigger challenges. They’re always creating, modifying and improving their vision and their version of the future.

It’s always where you’re going that is primary focus. And I’ve learned and experienced that when keeping a focus on the future, you don’t have to set goals, your mind compels you to set them.

Why is this, you ask? What is the benefit you wonder?

The rational is that when you accomplish one objective, it’s not the end, it’s the beginning of another starting point for another stage of an ongoing journey of development and growth.

Which brings us back to the original question, What are the five most important and specific accomplishments you need to make in the next 90 days for you to be pleased with your progress?

Analyzing and Transforming Our Patterns of Action

When I say patterns of action all I mean to say is “habits.” Patterns of action are like habits. I guess you could say they are our internal rules we follow automatically without us even thinking about it.

Scary huh?!

It might be hard to recognize, but we have patterns of action for how we relate to other people, how we work, how we love, how we eat, and how we do just about everything.

And what determines whether these patterns of action are good or bad is whether or not it gets us closer or further away from our goals.

So, if you’ve decided to focus on your crossing the septic field to the green grass on the other side, it’s important that we look at our patterns of action.

That brings us to our next question, Which three patterns of action could prevent you from reaching your goals?

For example, if someone’s goal is to create the foundation for their blog, and create a basis of content to populate that blog so it’s ready for syndication, that person would need to skip their favorite T.V. shows from 8-10 p.m. for awhile. And then spend the necessary time create the necessary content that attracts their identified target market. Those T.V. watching habits will prevent progress – they have to be eliminated.

After you’ve written down (just) three patterns of action that may prevent your progress, write the three new patterns of action needed to reach your goals.

For example, if someone wanted to gain ten new collaborative business partners to help market your product or service, they would need to get in the habit of networking more often, and making more phone calls to possible JV partners.

By the time you’ve identified three patterns of action that need to cease and the three new ones that need to start, you’ll have a future focused vision. You’ll be rapidly moving across that septic field toward the green grass on the other side.

And even though it’s likely it will take a considerable longer time than is comfortable for you to change these patterns of action, consider how long you’ve been practicing them. It doesn’t have to take that long to change them. Once you do, the new patterns of action will be natural.

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Comments



Powerful Message, Impressed

Eric, you always put out "over the top" content and this is among my favorites. The title is perfect.

THIS is what dreams are truly made of!

There's more wisdom in this article than I've gotten out of many books on business and success. Eric walks the talk--inspiring read, my friend!

Mike Klingler

Mike Klingler β€” Fri, 05/29/2009 - 8:08am

Best article on productivity I've read.

Wow! Eric this is the best put into action article on productivity that I've read. This will be a great help to me and I'm sure many other people.

I'd heard Mike Dillard talk about writing down 5 things to do for the next day, but I really like how you have broken it down so that there is an end goal to that daily practice!

Tracey Hausel β€” Fri, 05/29/2009 - 8:22am

Great article

Thank for sharing a great and important trought. It was an encouragement to me.

Trevor Sancho β€” Fri, 05/29/2009 - 8:31am

Can I say WOW?

Hi Eric,

This is an amazing article! You have broken it down into bite size pieces. Anyone who is willing to give up just a little now toward a goal, can reach it. Give it up now, do something productive in its place and see results. It's only a matter of time before these actions bring results.

Thanks for taking the time to put this into writing and sharing it with all of us. I know for myself, it's going to jump start me again into doing the activities necessary to reach my goal.

Have a great weekend.
Michelle Moseley

Michelle Moseley β€” Fri, 05/29/2009 - 10:28am

I am lucky too...

I consider myself lucky to have heard this article read to me by Eric Walker himself, in the comfort of our living room.

When I asked how many words the article contained, I was a bit stunned. My advice was to break it up into sections. At least two, maybe three. But upon hearing the piece, I changed my mind.

He read it well. I must admit, I love listening to him read his work.

It read fast, elegant even, and I was impressed, as usual, by Eric's writing skills.

More than impressed, I saw the writing on the wall.

This article is about Eric. This is how he lives. This is how he attacks, and will conquer, his goals. I see it in his work ethic every day. I hear it in his speak; see it in his actions. He is driven.

Good job, Eric, on another straight-forward and truthful article. You are authentic.

Kaitlin

Kaitlin Rose β€” Fri, 05/29/2009 - 10:46am

I needed the reminder.

Thanks so much Eric for reminding me about the importance of writing our daily goals down let alone those we wish to reach in 30-60-90 days or more. It was a habit I had started thanks to Mike Dillard but it took your insightful article to really bring it home to me.

Marie Leonard β€” Fri, 05/29/2009 - 11:31am

I Never Dreamed...

that when I reached out for help on this exact site that I would have been lucky enough to be answered by you Eric Walker! I can't thank you enough for all your words of wisdom and incredible support through this process. By no means am I anywhere close to being ready to graduate from YOUR University but so much better prepared because of articles just like this one! You are nothing short of an an amazing teacher! Thank you.

Jan Phillips β€” Fri, 05/29/2009 - 11:39am

It's About - MINDSET

Hey Eric:

I love the way you've presented this and broken it down - it's very clear - it's timeless, and SO important.

You're one of my favourite contributors here at BN, at RPro and at other places.

Here's a thought I have on this...

As much as learning the skills for Online Attraction Marketing and Social Media Marketing may have a profound impact on our business success (and it will) -- I'm wondering if, in some ways, we've become a little too occupied these days with looking at (assessing) other people almost entirely in terms of -- "how good their CONTENT" may be?

I'm wondering if this could have an inhibiting effect on some, especially when simply posting messages on Forums and in their Blogs, Squidoo Lens's, etc -- if they feel they're always being judged as to "how valuable their CONTENT is" -vs- just going more "free flow" with their messages? Yes, 'content' will be the ultimate measure, I guess - but so often, the responses to what people post about tend to focus mainly the "content" - as though being adjudicated on that.

The part of what you wrote that really "grabbed" me? => MINDSET - because it's the far "bigger picture" in my opinion. You said...

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However, those who do have the β€œstick-to-it-ive-ness” to apply the things they know enjoy not only tremendous changes in their income, but moreso in the way they feel about themselves, and their mindset toward business, and life in general. For those that cross this septic field once, they move forward – fast – in all areas of their life. This includes other even more lucrative business ventures and collaborations
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Yes - this is paramount.

SUCCESS MINDSET - I believe this is KEY - because a special' internal' mindset - of certain 'internal' core beliefs, values and principles - is important before 'anything' else…

I believe we must be willing to learn and develop this mindset quickly, because without this "business success mindset" - much or all of the effort and actions will be in vain ((including efforts towards Good Content)) - or perhaps yield a limited result with undue struggle, stress, anxiety and worry.

PERSONAL INTEGRITY is the 'core' value - it guides our life purposes. As business owners, we must have personal integrity that we cultivate into our business, customers, clients and others. Personal integrity is the foundation required for our business success in the long term. It’s impossible to have business integrity without personal integrity. Everything else flows from this.

CONTINUING EDUCATION - Call this a vital part of 'crossing over that Septic Field' if you will - but without a sincere committment to 'ongoing learning' (at places like MS - RU - RPro) - we will be left behind in a 'cloud of dust' . On that score - I'll close with this warning from a mentor of mine...

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"... if you're green, you GROW -- if you're not, you ROT!" :-)
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Again, an outstanding message Eric - many thanks.

Sincerely / Peter A.
http://www.PeterArnoldOnline.com

Peter Arnold, CLU, CFC / Founder
Business Achievers Academy / Canada

Peter Arnold β€” Fri, 05/29/2009 - 11:48am

Let it flow...

G'day Eric,

I really enjoyed your article and especially the part about the habits that we unknowingly fall into. As Eben Pagan pointed out in his Wake Up Productive series we can either be reactive or proactive. Interruptions such as email, SMS and (some) phone calls can interrupt our flow of work so easily, reacting to this things is a habit worth shaking. Scheduling a time to pro-actively deal with these things may just keep you out of the septic.

That's a gross picture by the way!

Cheers,

Steve

Steve Anderson β€” Fri, 05/29/2009 - 5:41pm

One Step at a Time

Part of the problem when crossing the septic field is that we want to leap over it altogether and frequently wind up stuck in the stinky middle!

How often do we hear people crying out that they are overwhelmed by all they have to do? Or how about those frustrated by a lack of progress; so they don't do anything at all?

You've taken us right back to that step-by-step teaching approach. By breaking things down - whether you are writing your first article, running a chain of mega-stores, or leading a group of highly motivated business networkers - it all happens one step at a time.

Even when we know these things and practice them, we still need that reminder - stop, evaluate, plan, and then DO.

So thanks for this easy plan to do just that - I'm keeping this article by my side so that I always smell the grass and not the sewage!

Barbara Silva β€” Fri, 05/29/2009 - 6:55pm

Keeping On Track

Eric, That was a very well written article. You make it very simple and straightforward. Just giving the exact thing to do, as you have, makes it so much more real and achievable. This is something I will be applying. I do not want to be in the septic, yuk.

Debbie McNeely β€” Fri, 05/29/2009 - 11:07pm

Now that's Value.

Eric, you always give value dude. You grab the bull by the horns, break it down, and walla!

You show it as it is and now, everyone can see how easy it is and what the can change, and how to apply.

Brillaint article.

I have to agree with Mike Klinger. I have read many books on this subject and I got to say, they don't come close to the value you have just shared in this one article.

Not even close.

Thanks for an awesome article dude. Thumbs up from me.

Adam Taha β€” Sat, 05/30/2009 - 10:16am

The Best ROI Possible...

It's always worth investing the time to read your articles carefully, Eric, 'cause it just pays off.

In all honesty, the title and the first paragraph threw me off - I took it to be another one of "keep going, you'll get there" kind of articles, and if it wasn't written by you, I'd have probably dismissed it.

But what a pay off! Such an amazing flow, and great pieces of wisdom there, specially:

"[...]spend the necessary time create the necessary content that attracts their identified target market. Those T.V. watching habits will prevent progress – they have to be eliminated."

Og Mandino says that developing good addictive habits is the foundation to success - and the only way to create an habit is to get rid of another. If we're bound to succeed, we must it a habit to do so.

Great lesson, Eric. Masterfully done.

Leo

Leonardo Saraceni β€” Sat, 05/30/2009 - 1:46pm

Great Plan

Hi Eric,

What a great article as always. I love the way you break it down so, we have a plan to move forward.

We get overwhelmed when we look at all the things that we need and want. It makes so much sense to break it down and go one step at a time.

Thanks for a great lesson.

Damayanthi

Damayanthi Jaya... β€” Sat, 05/30/2009 - 5:25pm

Awesome

Eric this covers it. From learning - to patience - focus - learning who we are and what we really want from our business. Crossing the field and going through the sludge to the other side is a stinky mess but the beauty of the green grass on the other side is such a pretty site.

It is such a joy to be working with this team of professionals

Angela Brooks
http://www.angelabrook.com

angbrook (not verified) β€” Sat, 05/30/2009 - 6:45pm

Another Home Run

Eric,

It's a pleasure to come home from a two week break and read this fine article. It was one of the first things I looked at and I'm glad I did. As always, you've laid out the pieces and outlined the steps in a thoughtful and easy-to-understand manner for anyone. I continue to be thankful for our collaborations. Anyone wanting to learn about attraction marketing for any business would be wise to follow you lead and your writings.

Peace and Abundance,
Deborah Tutnauer, LCSW
http://itsallsuccess.marketingmerge.com/guide/home1.asp

Deborah Tutnauer β€” Sat, 05/30/2009 - 7:10pm

90 Days to Success

OK Eric,

I was inspired enough by this article to take some of your suggestions and do them. As you know, I've been at this work for a long time. What you may not have known as I often have so many balls in the air without a definitive daily plan and thus am not as efficient with my time as I could be. I get a lot done and have good success, but often things get left out or put on the back burner of my overcrowded mind. Here's a link to my 90 day goal setting process. Thanks for the inspiration.

Peace and Abundance,
Deborah Tutnauer, LCSW

Deborah Tutnauer β€” Sun, 05/31/2009 - 11:32am

Truly a Guide for Personal Success

"I consider it a priviledge when people allow me to help them, and I love nothing more than watching them succeed" Eric Walker is totally authentic about coming alongside someone to guide them to their success. Success, however that is measured in the moment.

I have the priviledge of currently having Eric work with me. He is intuitive, instructive and sincere.

The lessons of evaluating personal commitment;internal congruence with the external verbage of goals we list for ourselves is huge as Eric has pointed out.

The discipline of listing daily action steps, of recognizing habits that block productivity and dealing with the two every day in order to creep forward towards goals, is wonderfully addressed in Eric's article.

Eric, I know that you recognize there are no magic systems that do all the work for marketers online. I know that your mentoring takes the student through hard work that results in a strong foundation for success.

Great article and I continue to follow your work.

God Bless you,

Pat Campbell

Pat Campbell β€” Sun, 05/31/2009 - 1:36pm

EXCELLENT ARTICLE-A FOUNTAIN OF WEALTH

This is probably one of the best articles I have read in a long time. You have hit home and quite insightful. Great Great Article.

Therese Catanzano β€” Sun, 05/31/2009 - 10:32pm

Facing the Facts

Eric, what a super article. Lots of insight and suggestions for truth and progress.

Thanks for taking the time to contribute to the community in this special way.

Great job my friend,
Deb Marsden

Deborah Marsden β€” Mon, 06/01/2009 - 1:17am

Can You Expect Anything Other Than Excellence

Eric that was an excellent article that is coming at the right time for me. You have a very unique way of provoking powerful imagery through your words, not many have that skill.

I've re-done the things mentioned in your article, planning what I'm going to do for the next day as well as what I'd like to accomplish in the next few months. Thanks for contributing so much to the community.

~Vesone Dean

Vesone Dean β€” Mon, 06/01/2009 - 5:06am

Self Discipline The Price of Success

Eric what a concise formula for success.

That is one of the things I love about you is your ability to put so much wisdom in such a small space.

Anyone who is looking to learn internet marketing would be very fortunate to have you as their guide.

Robert Ford

Robert Ford β€” Mon, 06/01/2009 - 12:58pm

Wow! Thanks Everyone...

I had sat on this article for quite awhile because I was still trying to get my positive habits replacing the "unauthorized" ones I was seeking to replace.

I was still trying to get "out of the moment" (which means less reacting for me) and keep a firm hold on my future vision.

So I didn't want to publish this article - it came out of my journal as a personal blueprint for myself.

When I rewrote for the web, a new lesson hit me over the head. I had no intentions except to genuinely offer value. I wasn't thinking about keywords, where I'd link, what inbound links I'd create - no game plan whatsoever. Just offering value.

I knew this kind of article might get a few reads, but I was surprised at this reaction.

I'm grateful for all of you, mostly personal friends and students, stop by and leave your comments.

Let's keep trying to be better every day.

Eric

Eric Walker β€” Mon, 06/01/2009 - 3:46pm

Intention

Isn't it true that intention often is better than anything else?

Deborah

Deborah Tutnauer β€” Mon, 06/01/2009 - 5:57pm

Valuable Insights

Eric,
Thank you so much for sharing these insights. You have tapped into the insecurities that plague so many people trying to build a business online and also provided a roadmap to show people how to move forward. We start believing things about ourselves at such a young age, and those beliefs can carry through for many years to come. But that doesn't mean we can't change our beliefs. Taking concrete and achievable steps can give us such a great sense of confidence. As we talked about the other day, shifting from doubt to trust (in the process and in yourself) can open up so many new doors and opportunities
Thank you!
Cindy

Cindy Schulson β€” Mon, 06/01/2009 - 8:07pm

KEEPING MY DREAM ALIVE

WOW Eric! This is a great encouraging article. I read "The Dream Giver" by Bruce Wilkinson and I don't believe I would have continued pursing my dream had I not. It reminded my a lot of crossing the septic field to get to the refreshing green grass on the other side.

May we all be inspired to keep reaching for our dreams no matter what.

God Bless,
Steve

Steve Wood β€” Tue, 06/02/2009 - 12:55pm

Daily Tasks

I agree with everyone opinion of your article, it is great.

I've always made a daily task list at the end of each day, for the next day. Some time 5 to 10 items on my list. But I've learned not to get frustrated if I don't get everything done.

The unfinished task are place on the top of the next days to do list.

People need to know that it isn't the end of the world if they don't get to everything on their list. There is tomorrow. Frustration can cause some to get derailed from their goal.

We only have a problem when we develop a pattern of not getting critical task done...

Rallie Rallis β€” Tue, 06/02/2009 - 4:21pm

Daily Tasks

I agree with everyone opinion of your article, it is great.

I've always made a daily task list at the end of each day, for the next day. Some time 5 to 10 items on my list. But I've learned not to get frustrated if I don't get everything done.

The unfinished task are place on the top of the next days to do list.

People need to know that it isn't the end of the world if they don't get to everything on their list. There is tomorrow. Frustration can cause some to get derailed from their goal.

We only have a problem when we develop a pattern of not getting critical task done...

Rallie Rallis β€” Tue, 06/02/2009 - 4:21pm

Superb Article

Eric,

I agree with everyone's comment. This is truly an amazing article. It really pin points the targeted areas one must do to succeed, when having a vision for their future. I can honestly say you really laid it down for everyone to see.

Thanks For Sharing,
Donna Wells

Donna Wells β€” Fri, 06/05/2009 - 4:23pm

Keep it in your archive

Wow Eric... I have no more compliments left to offer you. This is just one of the best articles I've read... Now remember to keep a copy in your archive. I can see how this article can be a great training piece in your own coaching or perhaps info products :)

Jerry Chen β€” Tue, 06/09/2009 - 2:24pm


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