The Negative Spouse - My Story

I have put this article in the category of dealing with objections because having a negative spouse is probably the biggest objection you will ever have to deal with!

When John first started out in Network Marketing I just could not understand what it was all about.  I had a wonderful intelligent husband who used to be the director of a large manufacturing company, dealing with international clients.  He was very successful at his job and was absolutely dedicated and loved the job he did. 

Unfortunately he was made redundant through ill health and after re-assessing and looking for something new decided that he was going to (how I saw it) deliver catalogues for a living!  I was not happy and thought it was beneath him to become what I saw as a glorified Avon Lady!  (I did not understand how Avon worked either!)   He spent hours  trying to make me see the 'bigger picture' but, alas, there is none so blind as those who do not want to see!  I was, and am still, very stubborn and it is only down to John's belief in what he had stumbled upon that we are still involved today.  Many people in life stumble upon a good thing and pick themselves up and carry on as if nothing had happened!!   Had he been a pushover in those early days, victory would have been mine but we would have never had the choices that we have got in our life today.  We have both been around to attend school plays and concerts.  When John was in the corporate world the children were small and he only used to see them at weekends.  Our daughter used to be really excited if Daddy had his jeans on because she knew he would be staying home!!

All I could see was the catalogue side of the business because at first that is what there is and to me it was not very inspiring.  I would not take the time to listen how the REAL money was made and that the catalogue side was a very small part of a massive picture.  I would not listen to John's vision for team building and how we could end up being paid a royalty income.

John was so convinced that if he could find enough people to help build their own businesses he could make it work. He was prepared to put up with my negativity and objections because his belief was so strong.  For 18 months he worked the business alone with no encouragement from me at all determined that he was going to be successful.  In reward for all his hard work he won an all expenses paid trip for two to Monte Carlo staying in the hotel situated on the Monaco Grand Prix hair pin bend.   I did not really deserve to go but John wanted me to see the big picture.  I went with him on the trip but very dubious about spending time with other 'Network Marketers' I though they had all lost the plot.

I still did not really understand how it worked but that trip completely blew me away.  We were treated like royalty, didn't have to pay for anything and being with the other distributors made me realise that they hadn't lost the plot at all.  They were all working towards freedom in their lives and having the choice to do what they wanted when they wanted to.

I came back from that trip converted!!  Since that time we have worked the business together and have built a fantastic team some of whom have the same enthusiasm as we do.  We are in a fantastic business and I really could not imagine doing anything else and with the add on of MLSP the future is looking fantastic!!

My advice to anyone who has a negative spouse is if you really believe that what you are doing is the right thing for you and your family then you just have to keep going and prove them wrong!!  John did and I am so grateful!!  He says 'I married you for better or worse and I am going to make it better whether you like it or not!'

By the way we have since also been on trips to Sun City in South Africa and stayed at the Palace Hotel and to Rio where we stayed in the Copacabana Palace Hotel, on Copacabana Beach.  ALL expenses paid luxury all the way!!!