The Core of What You Want
Read More: This is by far one of my favorite questions to ask people. At first glance it may seem like an easy question; well it is, if you give shallow answers. Examples of shallow answers would be, a new car, a new house, lose weight, better job, world peace, etc. To understand this powerful question more fully, ask yourself why you want it. Better yet, tell someone why you want it. This little exercise will get you to the root of what you really want.
Let me help you out here so you can stay on the correct path; EVERYTHING you want must fulfill some emotional need. Let me illustrate this. You want a new BMW 745. Why? Because you like how you feel driving one. Why? Because you like the way people look at you when you drive by. Why? Because you like it when people notice you.
Can you see where this going. Now we are starting to get down to the core of it. I have found that most things tie into self worth. Don't feel bad; we all do it. It is not bad to want nice things. It only becomes detrimental when those items are wanted because you associate yourself with them (you are who you are because of the car you drive. The Beamer defines you). Very bad.
So back to the original question, "What Do You Want?" I am hoping you see that question in a different light now. Maybe the better question is, "Why Do You Want What You Want?" I like that one much better. Now don't worry, I will discuss in other topics how to get that BMW you have always wanted, but for now, let's make sure we are ready for it.
Here's you ACTION step:
1. Make a list of 10 things you really want . There is no wrong answer here. Do NOT place any kind of judgment or filter on this. When I do this exercise with people, they say something then quickly retract on it because they impose a condition on it like, it costs too much, I shouldn't want that, etc. Just put it down on the paper.
2. Rank them from 1 to 10, 1 being the most desired.
3. Now take the top 3 and go through the why process. This is often the most difficult process because it involves self honesty and self discovery. You might ask the help of a spouse or close friend who knows you and is willing to give you honest feed back.
4. Congratulations, you have found the core desire of your wants.
Now that you really know what you want, it's easier to get.
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About the Author: Brendan Dalley
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Four Steps
"Why Do You Want What You Want?" I will apply the four steps. You are more specific than most people that I know. I bet that nobody asks that question so specifically as you do, "Why Do You Want What You Want?" Great, intelligent article.
Lawrence Bergfeld
Thank you
I believe that many get too busy to get to the core of their belief system. It's easy to get wrapped up in our busy lives and often what is happening on the surface level seems to be the real issue, but it's not. Thank you for taking time to respond. I do hope it will help.
Brendan
Permission to want, granted
Brendan,
Funny how personal questions come up and there's an article here at BN to match it.
I was in this inquiry for myself over the weekend. It was a little different examination of the question as it started with why do I not permit myself to want, what am I protecting? Seems that I grew up with "it's not necessary", "you can do without it" imprinted on my subconscious. So, wanting, in an of itself, has been stifled.
I now conscioulsy grant myself permission to want... and to want big!
Now to apply your 4 question exercise.
RICK