Why We Fear Rejection

In love, life and business we fear a lot of things. Loss, Success, Failure, Pain, etc. So you can see the limitations people have. But not many people know why we fear them. Social Dynamics has uncovered a lot of the reasons why.

In terms of love and relationships, we really only have to definite purposes. Survive and Replicate/Replication, each sex has a resistance. The male has a first minute resistance because his brain is hardwired to the way we lived 30,000 years ago. Now the reason why we are hardwired that way is because 30,000 years ago we lived in a tribal society of about 100 people. Now let's make this a little easier, you live in this tribe called Quest. Your tribe is of about 50 people, 25 male, 25 female. Now take away the males except from you. Then systematically remove the females that are too old, too young, married, pregnant, with kids, etc. You are then left with about 3 women whom you can mate with, (Replication).

So what's first minute resistance. This only occurs in the male, you, as the male, would feel like going up to these women or one of them to try and court them into being your partner. Now you feel this resistance, often known as Approach Anxiety, because your mind has "Survival" set in there and if you were to approach one of these women and there brother/father/your competitor or other male see you they will try to fight you and you could possibly die. So your survival instinct says, "Run". But say you over come that first barrier but run into the second barrier, displaying low value. Women are attracted to higher value, meaning if a male comes preselected, shows he is the leader of men, confidence and a fun sociable personality. These are a few things that a woman looks for. So if a male displays a lower value of himself. Then the woman may not mate with him and leave. So this further increases his fear, because the women who are single and at the age to mate with him would tell each other and you, the male, will possibly lose any chance of replication.

Now with women they look for Survival, so the male that can assure that they want them. They have a last minute resistance, the reason for this is because, they want a man that will be there for them. If the male that they have chosen to mate with seems to portray, "I'm here only to mate with you". For women the way mating works is they are going to be pregnant, this is there hardwired minds reaction. Today we have contraception and so on but the brain is still hardwired to that old way, so that's why last minute resistance takes place.

So the reason we fear rejection here, for men, its we can't replicate and possibly believing we never will, which is stupid because the population of the earth is at a huge mass. Now for females it's fear of the male impregnating them and leaving them, that is the fear that is explained in social dynamics.

In business it's similar, we think if a prospect rejects our opportunity there rejecting us. The reason we feel that is because of the same reason, except we feel we will have someone kill us if we approach someone with a business idea. This is all because our mind wants to survive. Now you can replicate here as well but not like physically, you replicate your business and success.

To conclude, we fear rejection because of our survival instincts. They guide us but if we don't take action and go speak to people we can't be complete. This serves us if used properly, but because it's not usually used correctly we end up feeling down and rejected.

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