Do unto Others...

  Written by Nanette Althof on May 20, 2009 4:50 am

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Do unto others….
 
As a child my mother would read to me every evening where possible before going to sleep.
These were really happy times, cuddled up in bed with her and hearing stories of Alice in Wonderland, or Water Babies.
In the story of Water Babies, of which the most I have forgotten, one sentence remained:
‘Do unto others as you would be done by’.
 
Why do I mention that? These are the thoughts going through my mind.
In the world today we are apt so easily to blame others for what has happened to us. Either someone or something in our circumstances is the cause.
This can well be, but it does not need to remain so.
Blaming others for what has happened in our lives makes us negative and robs our motivation.
It is not always easy to forgive, that is a truth, harder even perhaps to forgive oneself.
But, to move forward, to be successful, to achieve certain things in life, our motivation must rely on ourselves. We are responsible for our lives.
At times it does go wrong and terrible things happen, but it is still left to the person to move on through their own motivation and will-power.
 
Why then “do unto others”? Don’t forget the rest of the sentence: “as you would be done by”.
Let us take an example.
I, too, am interested in the networking business. It is sometimes heard that one does not succeed because ‘so-and-so’ is not doing their job properly, or the products are not as promised, the system in itself is not working…or whatever.
This may all be possible.
If ‘so-and-so’ is not doing their job properly and this worries me….then, no blaming them for their actions, but rather see to it that you do not do the same. Do exactly those things which you feel should be done. In other words, worry about your ‘so-and-so’s’ those for whom you have responsibility for and do it right! You want that for yourself, do it for others. It is a step to success. One comes away from negative thoughts and finds a positive direction.
 
One thing I noticed, my sponsors, or trainers, or guides are also human. Maybe they are also being deceived themselves. We criticise them, but they may also just be ahead of us, also still in the learning-curve, exactly on the same level as we are.  What must it mean to them when, although they are making mistakes, or  it seems even if they are not telling us the whole truth of the matter, that one acts differently….acts as he wants to be handled, sharing, motivating, asking the reasons, questioning. Do it. They might find it more encouraging to work with you, seeing you as a partner, striving also to reach a goal.
If it is really an open secret of deceit then let them go their way. If they cannot accept your critic, or your advice, or your question, and you feel the products or the system is good, then, go on. Prove yourself. If it seems all bad, leave it. Search further. Depends of course how serious you are in being successful.
 
Let me try and give an illustration. It is on a religious level, but it is a real life example.
Years ago I was in a bit of a mix-up and didn’t know how it was to move on. I met a couple who gave me a great deal of spiritual input. This seemed logic and I accepted it. I needed to come forward inwardly. I took the advice, acted on all that was said, only to find out years later that it had gradually formed into a sect.
 
Now I was married, had children and was in a foreign country…..who was to blame? Or should I blame?
No. The question was - what now? If it is wrong….get out of it.
If it is right…go ahead.
It was wrong, so got out of it.
And now? Blaming them for everything would have lamed the whole situation.
The point now was to move on inwardly. Get going. Plan something new, doing what you feel is right and see it all as a learning process. And it was. Certain aspects of life are much easier to see through after such an experience. You may also be surprised as to what you discover!
 
The main thing is you are important to yourself. Take up the reins of your own life.
If you have been cheated, get it in order and move on, do not sit there and make yourself believe nothing will ever go right again because………!
 
You do not like how you are being dealt with. Stop it!
 
And, maybe you are the one who is making everything difficult. You just do not do what you are told and because it doesn’t work you put the blame on someone or something else.
Stop it!
 
Saying someone else is the reason why I do not have success is wrong. Stop it!
Putting everybody under the same umbrella because of a bad experience is wrong. Stop it!
 
I do not earn a penny. I have been in MLM, moved on to the next thing that interested me, found out I couldn’t afford it, went on searching and searching and am still searching and trying. But…I have learnt more than money is worth. Taking the teachings of others in my life, if they were wrong or right, sifting them out, taking what was profitable has given me an amazing amount of knowledge I never had before. And I have found treasures in others I never thought were there when I started learning from them.
 
Those guys ‘up there’ are not all lying. They are not all trying just to get our cash.
Man, some of them have worked for years to get where they are. Have also experienced hard knocks, but did not give up on themselves. If we start lying or deceiving ourselves we’re lost.
So long as I am searching to have success in my life then I better trust myself to do all I can to reach my goals.
 
Some say, ‘you must dream more’; others say, ‘work harder’; others, ‘do what I do’; others, ‘invest more’……it will never be really clear what is the best way, but it’s up to me to find out where I fit in. If I want to be successful, I need to try and test until it makes PANG! No matter how long it takes.
Some have the experience much earlier than me (to be envied, of courseJ) and others give up because they expect cash tomorrow.
 
If you cannot believe the guy you are following, stop it and see if you can be the guy others can follow. Find a new way, and let the other go his way.
 
What encouraged me the most after I left those ‘spiritual’ folk was that I had recognised the fact that this was not good.
And not only that, I was able to find another way bringing more satisfaction, life and happiness for me and my family.
 
So, do not blame others or circumstances
 Remember, others are human too.
    Be true to yourself. Find out your lacks and strengths. Work on them.
     Keep moving forward, being negative kills motivation.
      Stop what you feel is not the right thing and move on.
        Improve yourself. Love yourself first and you will have a healthy pride.
         Do to others exactly what you wanted done to you. Behave yourself rightly.
 
DO AS YOU WOULD BE DONE BY
 
That’s what I think.
To our success
Nanette

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