Putting deadlines on your happiness...
Written by Logan Wandell on Feb 2, 2009 4:35 pm
Read More: Mindset | Personal Development | Positive Thinking"I've noticed folks are just about as happy as they have made up their minds to be" - Abraham Lincoln
Are you the kind of person that looks for some kind of outside even to make you happy? Are you the type of person who would say something like,
"As soon as I graduate, I'll be happy."
(Then you graduate.)
"As soon as I get a job, I'll be happy."
(Then you get a job.)
"Okay, as soon as I get married, then I'll be happy."
If this is you, what you need to understand is that happiness is a decision, not a destination.
Happiness is an attitude, not an event!
If you are determind to continue look at your life this way, then think of life as a waiting room, and "happiness" as your doctor. You know you'll be waiting there forever, so enjoy the magazines. (And when you finally see the elusive Dr. Happiness, he'll just tell you to schedule another appointment, and then you'll be happy.)
Hope this helps put things into prespective!
Your Friend,
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This is excellent Logan. People should always try to be happy with what they have. Believe me, my life is nowhere near perfect, not even a scratch on the surface, but I make do with what I have.
The gift of life is a blessing within its self. We did not choose to exist, our parents in one way or another decided to give us this wonderful gift. In my opinion the gift of life is the greatest gift of all gifts. Grant it we all have our ups and our major downs, but this is life. It's like one long obstacle course; we take the bumps, the bruises and pains and keep on going. Hay I know it's an old cliché, but what doesn't kill you will only make you stronger.
Best wishes to you,
Alfonzo Gasaway II
http://AlfonzoGasaway.bigmlmtruths.com
Putting deadlines on your happiness...
Funny you should post this now while I'm writing an article on How to Be Happy Healthy NOW! for one of my gifts for purchasing my book "Wake Up Women: Be Happy, Healthy & Wealthy". As your title says, people put deadlines and conditions on their happiness, while failing to recognize the many things they have to be happy about and grateful for in their life right now (which are usually the things someone else thinks they need to be happy!). So happiness really is a matter of perception. One of the quotes in my article is a compilation and twist of several quotes: “Many people have missed the opportunity to be happy, healthy and wealthy. Not because they never achieved it, but because they never realized they possessed it!”
Also interesting is that when I'm coaching someone, I often find that their ideas about what will make them happy are someone else's ideas of what will make them happy. So if they pursue that path to happiness, they will arrive at the goal and most likely find themselves unfulfilled and unhappy.
One of the best ways to help someone bring more happiness into their life right away is to have them write a Happiness Journal or Gratitude Journal where they list everything they have to be happy about and grateful for in their life. When the going gets tough, the tough get out their Happiness/Gratitude journal and put it all into the proper perspective.
I also wrote a report called "100 Ways to Be Happy, Healthy & Wealthy Now" with the top 100 things to do to make you feel happy, healthy and wealthy right now. I recommend people make their own list by asking the questions "What people/places/things/activities makes me happy?" So when things get them down, they can pick something from the list to perk them up!
All of this may sound simplistic but research has proven that it works! When someone hears a happy song or thinks a happy thought, changes take place in the brain and throughout the body. So happiness is only a song or a thought away! Research also shows that happy people live longer, so there are plenty of reasons to be happy!
Be Happy, Healthy & Wealthy Now!
Michelle Sanchez - DreamVisionNetwork
Health & Weight Loss Coach/Success Coach/Dream Coach/Author
Wake Up Women: Be Happy Healthy & Wealthy Bestselling Book
I wish I knew that 20 years ago
Wow Logan if People understand that it takes being your Best to be happy. Then they will be their best all the time. YOur Friend for Life Juanita