How To End War and Create Positive Communication Channel.

  Written by Tatyana Gann on Oct 31, 2008 1:49 am

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I honestly have to say I had an interesting month. I would say I had a bouquet of events in my life, the positive ones and the negative ones.

What I learned about myself in dealing with others is that in order to end the war we should never start it. All the problems occur due to miscommunication between two people. It could be your personal relationship, your friend, your coworker or a business associate.

What I wanted to share today is the seven key ways of ending the war and creating good relationship

1. First of all, never think that conflict is only their fault. It all starts because two people did not communicate properly and were afraid to ask questions if they understood correctly. We must learn to forgive and believe that we did forgive ourselves and other person. It is a first step in the successful communication.

We should be aware of our actions and put ourselves in their shoes and try to see how the other person thinks

2. Find a time and call that person or ask them for a lunch where you can look in their eyes and say that you are sorry for the mistakes and want to know how you can help both of you to solve problems. You always have to get to the roots of the issue in order to get things done. Our issues are like bad weeds that grow in the garden. If we do not get rid of roots of our miscommunication we never get ahead.

3. Listen and be patient. Patience is the best virtue. Patience enables us to be more compassionate and a better listener. We should respect and love other person and treat them the way we want to be treated.

Sometimes we only hear our story and we do not stop and think. believe me I made mistakes like that and I think older we get the wizer we get and we start paying attention more.

4. Respect yourself too. It does not mean that we should be selfish but we must know that we are doing our best to build that communication bridge back up and we do appreciate when other person respects us. There will never be good communication without mutual respect.

5. Gather your thoughts. Tongue is a like fire and we can say things that we can regret. Sometimes it is best to wait till next day and think if we really want to say those things. We base our decisions based on emotions and some people might see it as drama situation. I have been there. You have been there. We all experienced the situations like that in our life. We just should learn to have patience with our thoughts and do not press that SEND button where we want to send email too fast.

6. Accept your mistakes. Learn from them. Forgive yourself. Move on.

 7. Surround yourself with positive people who do not bring you down but have love for you. It is a healing time I say. Think over, take a breath. We are not perfect. Nobody is. It is life and we must take lemons and make the sweetest lemonade...

Have a great day and have fun on Halloween day!

Sincerely

Tatyana Gann

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