"G" is for Gone Ga Ga: Why Forming Relationships is the Only Way for a MLM Biz Builder to Stay Sane

  Written by Collette Gaskin on Sep 29, 2008 9:07 pm

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Hello Friends, Collette G here. I've heard it to my face and behind by back. "Has that girl gone ga ga? Has she joined that pyramid scheme cult?"

Well, the answer is yes, I have gone ga ga for using networking to effectively leverage my time and effort to build a business that lets me live life on my own terms. And yes, I'm crazy about giving others an opportunity to become a MLM Biz Builder Pro.

There is a method to my MLM madness.

I've deliberately chosen to become a professional network marketer in order to challenge myself to really connect with people. It's said that success in this business is only 10% business basics and product knowledge. The other 90% is divvied up between personal growth and people skills. Furthermore, the focus of most of your personal growth should be in improving your people skills.

In other words, it's really all about forming relationships.

Now that I am using the internet to connect with more people, I find that I have developed this intense relationship with my laptop computer. "Notebookie" has become a constant companion (although, I do go to the bathroom by myself).

I have to work very hard at relating more intensely with people than I do with things. Sometimes, I can be more comfortable with objects and tasks rather than people and relationships. When I find I am withdrawing from relationships with people in order to concentrate on doing more work, I remind myself that business was made for people, not the other way around.

Love people; use things. If I'm not careful I can flip it backwards and love things while using people.

Has it always been easy for you to form relationships and connections? Well, then thank God and give the rest of us a break. Sometimes rapport is instantaneous. Sometimes you have to work to build it.

In the seventies it was popular to attempt to form instant rapport with others by asking the question, "What's your sign?" If you're someone who is able get to know people through astrological queries, by all means keep on using that method. The rest of us need a more systematic and subtle approach to forming relationships.

Dani Johnson is a relationship marketing expert. She teaches a system of relating to people she calls the CORE Rapport method. You form relationships by asking questions based on F.O.R.M. which stands for Family, Occupation, Recreation, and Message.

Family questions might be: Do you have a family? Are you married? Do you have children? Where did you grow up?

You can ask Occupation questions like: What do you do for a living? What do you like most about it? Least? Are you doing what you set out to do?

Recreation: What do you do for fun? Do you do that activity as often as you'd like? If money were no obstacle, which hobby would you start or expand?

Asking and really listening to the answers to Family, Occupation, Recreation questions is the prerequisite to Message or communicating how what you have to offer may be of value to them.

Answers to these questions is key to discovering the other person's S.I.G.N. which stands for Strengths, Interests, Goals, and Needs. Every person has his or her own characteristic blend of strengths, interests, goals, and needs. Every person is made uniquely, as one of a kind as the prints on our fingertips.

Each person sees the world from his or her own perspective and most think of that worldview as reality. Even the most careful person can believe that the way they view the world is right and others are therefore wrong. As a result you can judge people and cut off relationship with others.

If you've ever read Dale Carnegie's How to Win Friends and Influence People, then you work on the relational premise that people tend to focus on themselves. People naturally want to talk about what is important to them. After asking questions, instead of waiting for your turn to speak, take this golden opportunity to listen.

Golden Opportunity? Yes, because the gold (the money) comes from people. Your success in business and in life depends on your ability to offer people the very thing for which they are earnestly searching. People will pay you in proportion to your skill in helping them get what they want.

In other words, the marketplace pays for value.

Use these tools to build rapport with people, not merely to get information to manipulate them. Amateur salespeople make their living convincing people they need to buy things they don't want. Professional networkers add value to others by helping people get what they want. Amateur salespeople give only to get. Professional networkers give without want.

Add value to others regardless of individual return on that investment. Know that the universe is designed for abundance. Give and it will be given back just as planting seed will yield a harvest in due season.

Be interested in others, whether or not others are interested in you or what you have to offer. Give rapt attention, whether or not others can give you anything in return. Make others feel important because they are.

Now, I'll ask you. How do you form relationships? What is your most compelling story of giving honor and significance to others. I welcome your comments.

I love meeting new people. I aspire to forming and strengthening relationships daily. My relationship with God, with my family & friends, with the people I network with.

I'm also ga ga about sharing a breakthrough in my MLM business.

So here was my breakthrough... because I started learning how to form relationships, I met a leader who exposed me to a turnkey marketing system and a different way of building my MLM business.

If you're also crazy about building a thriving business and helping others find a system built for success, then go to www.MLMBizBuilderPro.com. You'll get the insider scoop on how the top industry leaders play networking the right way... to win.

To your prosperity,

Collette G

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