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[Jared Hathorn Contribution Level: 3]

Let us look at two ways to get in a building. The front door is locked and many people try to get in the building through the front door. Now this building is a representation of success. Now everyone has tried the front door at one time. The front door represents all our attempts for success and failed.

The building also is designed that we need as many people as we can to increase our success in this building. The more people we invite and share the more success we have.

Now someone has found a way in through the back door. The back door has easy access to the building because it is unlocked. Now this person has the ability to share this information to everyone he can.

He quickly goes to the front door where everyone is and yells that they are wrong and need to follow him. Now naturally people got offended because they were taught that success is through the front door. They were also offended because someone judged them. It opened what is naturally in people called the defense mechanism.

He sadly went back to the back door and wondered why many did not follow him. Finally he decided to try once more but take a different approach. He quickly started to build relationship with everyone he can that were at the front door. He started to freely give information about the back door without being pushy or judgmental toward the person trying the front door.

His goal was mostly seeking on building relationships with people and giving as much information as possible. Then without begging people to follow him he slowly walked to the back door. Many people saw him because they now knew him. They wondered where he was going and decided to follow him. After all they knew him now and trusted him. Because of the trust they did not feel bad or scared to follow him.

He gained success by building relationships and giving value to peoples lives. It built trust in people and he made himself a leader. People follow leaders so they followed. The process maybe slow in the beginning but in the long run it gave him success.

I hope that my message was clear and that people can understand.

Jared Hathorn

[Philipp Knechtle Company: GiveOpp Contribution Level: 1]

That's an awesome explanation Thanks for sharing it here.

To me it's fascinating how the 'building' you elaborate on is a neurological place in the brain that allows someone to experience success & abundance while another person lives in failure & lack and how once we help ourselves we can only help others successfully by offering them a solution as a suggestion instead of a "you're wrong - I'm right" approach

Great to "keep in mind"

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[Rob Bright Contribution Level: 2]

Great analogy, my two cents worth on top of that is a person becomes a leader when they decide to become one and that is all there is to it.