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[Cynthia Acoff Contribution Level: 4]

Hello to all. I have been on BN for about 1 month now and I find it a great place to network. I visit a lot of forums, read a lot of articles and blogs, make a lot of friends. For the most part, it's been a happy place for me. Every now and then I come across a forum that gets pretty heated and people are lashing out at one another. I know that I am just one person out of thousands on this site and I have no control of what people do or say; but I thought I needed to throw this out there. I am proposing that we keep this site as unique and positive as we can. Please, if you don't have anything positive to give to a forum, article or blog, just click out of it. There is no need to lash out at others if you don't agree with their comment. There is no need to bring race into a comment; it could actually offend someone else on the site and cause them to leave. Who knows, that person could had something of value to offer. Let's keep it clean, positive and let's be sensitive to others feelings.

I felt the need to post this as a topic because lately, I have come across these negatives comments.

Here's to happiness in the future of networking

[frazer lazell Contribution Level: 1]

Hi Cynthia, Great comment, I understand what you mean I have seen not just in here but in most forums where what was a good post turns into nothing more than a slanging match and that is no good for any of us no matter which company or topic is involved...Negative and bad comments take us all down and are grim reading for newbies to network marketing and to this wonderful site.

[Maya Kasabov Contribution Level: 2]

I can't otherwise, just to agree with you Cynthia.
I am new in this environment as you are and also having some very good experiences. People I came across were warm and welcoming me. I certainly shall do my part in bringing some value to this community.
But sometimes people get carried away with their convictions, emotions and opinions, not realizing there are "borders" not to be crossed. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, but form of transition of it to others can disclose us, if we are not careful, as not understanding and particularly well-mannered. Aren't we supposed to be somewhat of an elite of people having same goals in achieving and helping others at the same time?

Perhaps this wisdom from one of my favored philosophers Arthur Schopenhauer shall help a bit:

"Society of porcupines were cuddling together during one very cold day to warm each other.
But soon one felt sharp needle points of others coats and they separated.
However, that cold and loneliness brought them back together and situation repeated itself again and again. Then, finally, they found an ideal distance, which made all comfortable and they stayed that way. And it is called in society politeness and good manners."

So, let all be good friends...

Friends, you and me,
You brought another friend,
And then there were three,
We started our group,
Our circle of friends,
There is no beginning or end


Best regards to all.
Maya

(I beg for understanding for any "fopa" ...English is actually my 3rd language)

[Adam Chandler Company: MyLeadSystemPRO Contribution Level: 4]

I understand that some people take certain things very seriously and things might get a little heated. Debate is healthy if it can remain at least fairly positive. All of us are here to help others and build our busness'.

If anyone is brining up race, creed, or taking personal stabs at people they need to be reported and their accounts should be deleted ASAP.

-Adam

[Cynthia Acoff Contribution Level: 4]

Thanks for all the comments. Adam, I agree, these race comments should be reported, but I thought that the forums are moderated. When I see the negative comments going back and forth in the forums, I just click out of them. And, I have had someone respond to my comments negatively, I don't respond because I WILL NOT participate in that kind of networking.

[Billy Anne Crews Contribution Level: 2]

I totally agree. It's great to reply to people's posts and leave comments, but dont do it in a way that will alienate people. I've had people on my post and videos that say crazy things somtimes and well they have opinions about what I wrote (and frankly I wonder if they really read my article). I respond by not responding. Who cares what other people think. Just bring value to the replys not meaness.

Teaching 'Em to Fish,

Billy Anne Crews

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if you spoke to the "negative"... would the negative believe they where being "positive" in the light that "negative" is simply doing the job that "negative" is programmed to do?

why is it that if a member of the forum wishes to express themselves in relation to a topic... they are asked to simply exit without doing so... and we now have a whole post in relation to that?

but if i read it again it makes me wonder why... why is this "negative" post about members of the forum perceived to be "positive"... because it is essentially attacking freedom of speech?

i have no answers... but you might... not sure though as i haven't agreed or disagreed with the post... just promoting virtuous thought as i would rather assume that is being promoted here by this very post... it seems like a much better stance than a controlling one... the only true thing we control is our thoughts

[Melanie Kissell Contribution Level: 3]

Cynthia,

As long as the human race is in existence, there will be mud slinging!

A little controversy can be a good thing, though. In expressing more than a solitary point of view, education happens ... which keeps our brain cells active.

Eyes can be opened. Thoughts can be provoked. The coin can be flipped over so we can view what's on the other side. Mnds can be changed. Motivation kicks in. Inspiration flows.

Of course, we must all be mindful of the BN rules we agreed to follow and not step over those boundaries.

Be fierce and Be fabulous,

~Melanie
http://melaniekissell.com

[Mike & Joy McCullough Company: Escape International, LLC Contribution Level: 2]

We agree, life is way to short to spend our time bickering.

[Lawrence Bergfeld Contribution Level: 4]

Do not even put comments regarding how a woman looks if she has a boyfriend. I did it to one of my female friends whom I have known since childhood and even she was offended and explained to me that there is an unspoken myspace/facebook etiquette where one chooses carefully what compliments to say to a woman if she is in a relationship. Man I learned a tough lesson there and the lucky thing is that we knew each other well.

Lawrence Bergfeld