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[Onye Akpala Contribution Level: 1]

Hi Everyone

After browsing BN website the past few days since joining, I'm glad to be part of this great network. This is even more so by some of the messages I have received from other members.

I NEED HELP!

My interest has always been the internet and what it can do. I like to help individuals and business establish an online presence to tap into the global opportunities that the internet opens ups. I have invested money, time, energy. In the process, my marriage suffered a great knock from spending over 16 hours a day on my laptop. Tried affiliates of Kemform, 123-Reg, Go Daddy and now with Wild West Domains. These have not worked. I am aware people are making money from Go Daddy and Wild West Domains, some over £10,000 a month but not a squeak for me

I have also tried doing it on my own through buying Reseller Accounts with counless Internet Service Providers, bought lists, advertised, and still nothing. Infact, in Feruary and March, I bought two small lists of just 100 new businesses (lest than 2 months old) and cold-called them offering them business websites and not one single sale.

After all these, I tried Herbalife, Kleeneze, Avon and loads of other stuff. I did not get anywhere but this is mainly because I did not enjoy these and they just fizzled out.

I just keep coming back to the internet because I love it. All I've been doing really is giving out websitesto Charities to help them promote their work, but have made no money at all.

NOW I AM DESPERATE!

My desperation stems from the fact that I do not have any money at all now to invest in anything. The only thing I have going for me now is that my wife has agreed to support the family while pursue this Work from Home dream. But it is a struggle.

SOMEONE PLEASE HELP!

Thanks
Onye

[Lisa Torres-Allen Contribution Level: 2]

Hi Onye,

It is still not the end of the world, life is tough and everybody endures hardship before success comes along.

I admire your courage Onye. Keep on trying and don't ever loose your hope.

[Lawrence Tam Company: Numis Network Contribution Level: 3]

Hello Onye,

Great that you came on board and this is the correct place to sink in and learn. So lets start with some observations.

1) From what you have described, you can see that your past experience online really wasn't getting you to where you wanted to go. If you understand that currently following the same course will eventually land you to where you are now. With questions and still seeking a way to make a living online.

But... There is hope. You came here to stop the vicious cycle of not making money with the time spent online.

2) So did you notice that every single company you joined or affiliate program you have sold didn't solve your issue? Have you come to realize that maybe the next latest and greatest regardless who made money on it has little to do with YOU becoming successful?

This is where you begin to realize that maybe it's not the program or company and maybe it's you? Now that might sound bad but it's not. Of all the money you have spent investing in growing a business or moving an affiliate, how much of that has been invested in something much more important.... YOU. Have you educated yourself in "HOW" to work a business online?

Get with a mentor and absorb as much information as you can.

[Louis Redemption Contribution Level: 2]

What has set you apart as a success potential already is your dogged determination to succeed irrespective of the pains you have gone through.
There is hope for you my brother, I too went through such a road of frustration but today i celebrate with joy for not giving up....

[John Murphy Contribution Level: 4]

Bro,

Here is my advice:

1. Get a job! If you have kids and a family, you need to support them number 1!

2. Working hard and having desire does not mean you will be successful! You have to be working hard on the RIGHT THING! 99% of the people have no clue what this stuff is! You need to start by learning! I would go direct to dan kennedy and buy his books off amazon. You will learn the most right things to do to move your business forward. The vast major of people on the internet are "trying" to position themselves as leaders the only problem is they are just repeating what everyone else is telling them. Not bringing any new and valid information to the market place.

3. It isn't the business or the opportunity that makes you successful. From your post I can see you are spend too much time on the internet. Marketing you business online is SIMPLE. Quit reading all this crap out here and making it tough for yourself. You need some basic information and know some basic marketing concept and you should start generating leads, then talking to people, and finally signing people up! This is overly simple, but this is what it takes! Start by understanding marketing. One assignment if I were you I would start with his printing off Mike Dillard's sales letters and writing them out by hand to truly understand why and how they work. You need to position yourself as a leader, but you also need to know how to do it! That is the hard part!

4. Quit spending so much time online! Clear up your life by doing stuff as well!

5. Don't re-invent the wheel. Steal other people videos, articles, and sales pages to create your own content!

[Reynaldo Perales Contribution Level: 3]

Personally...

..you gotta change that screen play you got going in your mind and getting no where..

Find something you like and master it and use it to make some earnings..use
a screen play in your mind but one that is going the right way..to a "Starving Crowd" ..really!

rey

[Richard Bravo Company: Life Force International Contribution Level: 9]

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Hi Onye, Welcome.

My name is Richard.
I'm sitting here trying to decide how to reply to your post.
On one hand I feel your frustration and sense of urgency and relate to it quite a bit.
On the other hand there is so much to learn that a simple forum post isn't enough to give directions.

One thing from my own experience and watching others in similar situations, is this...
First and foremost above all things, PROTECT YOUR MARRIAGE!
Nothing is more important at this point.

Men can feel right at home floundering about, living on the edge and taking risks at a moments notice for extended periods of time. But women NEED to "feel" secure and safe and have some stability, and that is compounded 10 fold in a marriage and 100x if you have children. Sorry if that offends anyone but it is a simple psychological fact of the human species. Yes I know plenty of wonderfully adventurous women that are a blast to hang out with and can throw down in life just as well as anyone else. That's not my point. I am talking at a simplified, basic instinct level. Your wife wants to know that everything is going to be ok, that your family is safe and secure and YOU are making sure to it.

My wife is a strong, independent women, brilliant business person, ridiculously intelligent and talented, that can kick ass and take names with the best of em', but at the end of the day, on a deep emotional level she needs to KNOW that she knows, that our marriage is safe and our children are safe and that we have a "level" of security and stability in our lives. As her husband and the father of our children and her PARTNER in this life, she looks to me to provide that, with her, AS A TEAM.

So my point is this, if you have to get a job or work more at the one you already have to provide that for your wife, then don't even bat an eye lash at the thought, just do it! If your finances are hurting and it is causing emotional strain on your marriage, get 5 jobs if you must, but take that out of the equation. I'd bet that 1 job will do the trick. She just needs to SEE "something" coming in.

It sounds like you have skills that you can utilize though to make money while you "build" your internet business. If you're building sites pro-bono for non profits then take that skill and look for "paying" clients.

Like I said when I started, I am sitting here looking for the right words...and I don't know anything about you personally. So let me share this with you, again from personal experience. Desperation on the path of an entrepreneur can being very motivational. It can also be a detriment. It can motivate you to work harder, longer, faster. But it can also hurt you, causing you to make irrational or hasty decisions, to lose focus or give up.

Succeeding as an entrepreneur, or in life for that matter, requires a delicate balance. And I do not mean "equality" in all aspects of your life. I believe that everyone's "balance" looks and feels different. But chaos in your life is a sure sign that something is wrong (out of balance) and needs to be fixed.

There is no magic pill or overnight success formula... it just doesn't exist. Building a successful business online or off takes dedication, consistency, strategic planning and time; among many other things.

I would say that the best thing you could do for yourself, your wife, your marriage, your family, right now... is to step back for a moment. Take your wife to lunch and talk. Go for a walk in the park; get some fresh air and clear your heads. Talk about what the two of you want together. Share your goals with her. Tell her about your dream of having a successful internet business and what that will LOOK like once you build it. Find out what she wants and what she NEEDS. The language will be very different between the two of you, but listen to her very closely. She'll tell you EXACTLY what she needs to feel secure.

Do that and map out a plan of action together. I also recommend creating a schedule. Put your business building activities on a set time frame and STICK TO IT. This will alleviate so many troubles in the relationship. She will know on Mon,Tue,Wed & Thur, from 8-10pm is your time to work on your business, or what ever you come up with. The point is to "structure" your activity. Predictability = Stability = Security.

I guess the take away from all that is to make sure you are talking & LISTENING a lot with your wife. Never let communication breakdown between the two of you. It's easy for it to happen; I know.

Anyway, like I said, a forum post just doesn't provide enough space to cover everything, but i think those are some main areas a person should focus on when building a business and maintaining a strong relationship with their spouse along the way. I hope it helps you in some way.

Sincerely,
~ Richard


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[William Nissen Company: ViSalus Sciences Contribution Level: 5]

The companies are not the problem- the problem is you haven't tapped into your authority yet. You found what you love which is a great first step, now find your VOICE. What area of internet work are you confident in, give things away to help people and you'll see a change in your prospecting. Take time to get a clear voice on what you have to offer that no one else can offer.

Yes- we all have a niche- because we are all different. I'll pray for your success

Bill Nissen
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