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Re: Can A Divided House Stand?

Post by Stephen Meyer on Sun Dec 23, 2012 1:21 pm

iwanttobemyownboss wrote:Our house is divided. I am trying to start network marketing but my wife tells me they are all a scam.We argue about this daily.I have had 2 major surgeries in 2012 and my ability to do my job is in jeopardy because of the physical nature of my job. I thought learning how to make money from home would be perfect.

Hi, I feel for you and others with the same difficulties. I had the same experience. It took a little time and patience to overcome. What helped me most was finding a product my wife also liked and saw value in. If you can do that you will be on your way to starting your own business.

Just remember these things;
You can't force someone to believe as you do.
Do not try to prove your point
Be patience and share helpful information that explains exactly what the industry is about
Share smaller goals, such as earning a few hundred a month instead of thousands a month or 6 figures a year etc..
Remember, God and Family first, business and work come after them. Set your priorities.

Re: Can A Divided House Stand?

Post by iwanttobemyownboss on Tue Dec 18, 2012 10:22 am

Our house is divided. I am trying to start network marketing but my wife tells me they are all a scam.We argue about this daily.I have had 2 major surgeries in 2012 and my ability to do my job is in jeopardy because of the physical nature of my job. I thought learning how to make money from home would be perfect.

Re: Can A Divided House Stand?

Post by thedarkroom on Sun Mar 18, 2012 9:24 pm

Stephen Meyer wrote:I've had some interesting private messages concerning this thread. Just to make it clear, This is not about my wife and I. It's about dealing with this issue when you are recruiting people, talking to friends about your business, etc..

From my past experiences it has been a difficult issue for some relationships. One that has to be worked out by the couple.

Thanks for the replies. :)


On that part, "couple has to work it out," agreed. It's a mess only they can sort out. Usually, it's been there, long before the business. I personally won't advise anyone to step in and be in middle. It's best left to the couple to work it out if they can.

Re: Can A Divided House Stand?

Post by rstol on Sun Mar 18, 2012 7:54 pm

I think this "Divided House" theory happens more often than most people think...I have to deal with it, and I must say that it certainly makes it more difficult to get things done...It kind of puts a leash on me. I am very conservative in my Marketing approaches. So not to spend too much money, I will only do the No-Cost or Low-Cost methods of Marketing. And that usually means more time spent. Now not only am I spending some money, but an excessive amount of time, and that just increases the division in the house. In order to balance my time with family and work, I find myself doing most of my Internet work after hours...after my kids are asleep and when my spouse is winding down for the evening. This is also the time that I am most tired and less effective, adding to the amount of time spent to get things done. I keep at it because I know that I am working for Freedom...Total Freedom. It will all be worth it in the end....Won't it???

Re: Can A Divided House Stand?

Post by Stephen Meyer on Sun Mar 18, 2012 10:41 am

I've had some interesting private messages concerning this thread. Just to make it clear, This is not about my wife and I. It's about dealing with this issue when you are recruiting people, talking to friends about your business, etc..

From my past experiences it has been a difficult issue for some relationships. One that has to be worked out by the couple.

Thanks for the replies. :)

Re: Can A Divided House Stand?

Post by mlsanders on Sun Mar 18, 2012 5:11 am

Somes times it is best to stand on two feet instead of one. I can do my thing and my wife can do what she wants. As long as it does not interfere with the main household income everything is fine. I have been doing and trying several online businesses with not much success. When I came upon my present online business, I was doing it by myself. No input from my wife. I was on the products for about a year when my wife noticed my health had changed. I was healthier, more energetic and ready to go all the time. There were several other ventures I had gotten into with not much success. So another one would not change anything until she noticed that I looked younger, and healthier. I went and got check ups and the results showed my health had improved. About a year later, she wanted to try it. Her health changed and improved. She noticed that she was not taking as many medicines as before. She lost some weight and became more active. She became hooked on the products as well. It was years later that I picked up my first customer. That customer saw the benefits and enjoyed the results. My advertisement expenses were still greater than the income. My wife was still not impressed until she saw some of the checks. She became involved in giving suggestions on cutting down on expenses and pointers on how to attract more customers without really trying. She is the better salesman and now helps me to do the business.

Re: Can A Divided House Stand?

Post by Nemo on Fri Mar 16, 2012 11:05 pm

This website that we are on now becomes a divided house almost every day...does it still stand?
if two people disagreed over whether or not one of them should have a go at network marketing and the other one disagreed and that created a traumatic relaltionship then the problem is not in the discussion or the potential outcome of the discussion but in the relationship.

Of course the question might be a spin off of the discussion in question such as one partner not taking into considration the required expenditure?... but that is not an arguement over mlm but the potential outcome of the household budget which must always play an extremely important role, regards Jim T.

Re: Can A Divided House Stand?

Post by Stephen Meyer on Fri Mar 16, 2012 2:42 pm

Some interesting replies, thank you all

As far as leaving my wife goes, won't happen. May be an age thing and a strong desire to not start over again, either way it's not a possibility. Luckily that isn't a question i have to ask myself. It does appear a lot of couples do have to come to an agreement or their business is going to suffer big time. I agree with Richard, stay out of that mess.

Re: Can A Divided House Stand?

Post by Hayley-McKeever on Fri Mar 16, 2012 1:12 pm

I think in this situation (and really in any other where you are involved in high-volume discussions!) you have to talk, talk, talk. My husband didn't want me to set up my own Internet Marketing business, as in the past we've wasted lots of time and money on similar "opportunities". However, we took the time to talk things through and I showed him exactly why I wanted to do this. Then when he understood, we agreed a monthly budget that I could use to start things off and this made me feel fantastic! Now I have his full support and we are both happy spouses in a happy house!

Re: Can A Divided House Stand?

Post by thedarkroom on Fri Mar 16, 2012 12:28 pm

Hi

Been there, done it. Though every couple is different. I was married before to someone years ago, where they weren't just not interested, but spiteful too, and sarcastic. Needless to say, she was out. Divourced.

I'm that type of person. If someone loves you, and you haven't egged them on about the biz, then no need for that person to act that way. It is far more to do with something else e.g. lack of self respect, lack of maturity because I'd always make this person important in my life but no matter what you do - if that person has values is not similar to yours, forget it.

Now, I'm married again, and before success, there was a lot of challenges. However there is a BIG difference.

This time, my wife encouraged, supported, she didn't care if it was MLM or washing dishes. She told anyone else to mind their damn business from our family affairs and if they are not willing to encourage, shut up. And no one talks bad about her man.

See the difference?

She took me for the whole package and so did I.

So, even though a spouse is not interested, it doesn't matter. Love, family comes first. A mutual respect and if there isn't any of it, it's dead. It can be developed but it takes two.

One thing to do, is lead by example which I have done always but if this is causing some challenges of sarcasm, of trying it on with acting stupid all time, making one look stupid in front of friends - she's out. End of the story.

But that's me, that's my values and it's my personal view in life.

Adam

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