Position yourself as a leader or a friend?

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Re: Position yourself as a leader or a friend?

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Re: Position yourself as a leader or a friend?

Post by mlsanders on Thu Apr 07, 2011 7:16 am

To your friends and people who know you, you can be a friend. To new people who look towards you, you best be a leader.
After over 30 years working I've learned to listen. When I was in narcotics squad, I stopped at a drug area and watched. A lady approached me, and told me everything about the place. She remarked that she could spot a cop a mile away!
Later, I used the same method on a crime scene with a large crowd gathering. I stepped up and watched. People came up to me and letting me know what was going on. I stood as an authority to them and listened. ( The power suit and wide brim hat positioned me better) ;)
Whether you are percieved as a friend or a leader in whatever field of endeavor you have, listen to your people. :idea:

Re: Position yourself as a leader or a friend?

Post by Edward_yaw on Wed Apr 06, 2011 5:11 pm

I'd have to agree with the both answer. You should be a friend and a leader to truly shine and to show your new members or customers or even just prospects that your not just going to get them into your oppotunity and leave them out to dry. Ray Higdon said it best above. People want to be led they want to be shown the way. That is one of the main reasons folks turn to the internet to find opportunities to make their live's better.

So I'd have to say friend and leader.

Re: Position yourself as a leader or a friend?

Post by JanHickling on Wed Apr 06, 2011 2:51 pm

I like to think I am a friendly leader to my team. It is important to me I am approachable and seen as a human being much like my team mates. This gives them the belief they can succeed too. I also believe it is my responsibility to be direct and objective so I can help them over come or see the obstacles. Having a distance allows this to be a normal and positive part of our relationship.

Though I don't have a huge following I have come to understand the concept of culling the herd. If I have two people wanting my attention I will spend time with the one who is in the solution not the problem. I am not a therapist so I am not interested in hearing your personal problems about why you can't follow through on your commitments. This is to me the difference between a friend and a friendly leader. My girlfriends get the shoulder to cry on and the team mates get the hand to pull them to their full potential.

Good post - I,m glad I read it.
Jan Hickling

Re: Position yourself as a leader or a friend?

Post by lyndacromar on Thu Mar 31, 2011 10:22 am

christryon wrote:In the arena of on-line marketing it is said that in order to be successful, you must "position yourself as a leader." Since most of us are involved with network marketing, wouldn't it make more sense to position yourself as "a friend?"

I have seen gurus and so-called gurus on popular social networking sites. They have huge lists of people following them, but they do not interact with their audience. Do their followers honestly believe that these gurus truly care about them?

Does having a huge list of followers mean that you have a successful business? I don't think so.

In most network marketing companies, the average person only needs to personally sponsor 3 people and teach those individuals how to do the same thing.

I would venture a guess that most of us have at least 3 close friends and if we approach them the right way, they will respond in kind. They will help us build our business. Those individuals know that we care about them and are willing to do everything in our power to help them succeed.

What do you have to say? Be honest. Did you join your current mlm because of a "leader" or a "friend?"

you really have brought out such a very important point here.

Here is what I have found, while its very good to approach friends we then have to go through explanations of our opportunity. What is most important is to make sure it is a need they are looking to fill. Sometimes they have a need but they are not really willing to make any changes, and we all know we can't change them.

On the other hand that reference to people with big lists, we can be sure that there are those who are like you said, don't care, and there are definitely others who really do care, and really do respond.

The trick is to be the kind of leader that is open, honest, transparent, and gives great value. He or she listens to his list. He responds to them. He brings the value that they are seeking.

Once he or she has established the trust then he can show them what he has for them, and they will honor him and look at it. This takes some time and patience whether they are friends before or not.

It still boils down to relationships and that is my story and I am sticking with it! :lol:

Re: Position yourself as a leader or a friend?

Post by lyndacromar on Tue Mar 29, 2011 2:18 pm

Why can't you be both? Maybe we have different definitions of a leader. Someone who shows the way, they take their own action, and they teach and train, that is what I believe a leader is. That is also showing friendship :lol:

Re: Position yourself as a leader or a friend?

Post by g11358 on Tue Mar 29, 2011 2:00 pm

Interesting post.

I htink itg is a combination of the two, people want someone hwo can lead them and show them the way, we also know not much is done with people we don't like, so relationships are important, just be both a leader and a friend.

Re: Position yourself as a leader or a friend?

Post by Debby_Beachy on Sat Mar 26, 2011 8:14 am

I believe to be a leader you must "grow into leadership." I do believe people join people first , because of the "know, like, and trust" factor. Really does Internet network marketers need hundreds or thousands of people on a list? Most people that have this kind of list are affiliate marketers.

I've notice more lately that people are in systems to build a list and get paid commissions from products within the system. I have been in those systems and even bought into the "inner circle" and never really connected with people to build the main business. I don't have any regrets for being in this popular system and spending the money for the "inner circle" ( I did learn a lot of technology stuff ) but it wasn't for me.

Leadership comes as you work very hard on yourself. I think it's really important to become a leader and to be recognized as a leader. I also believe leaders make great friends, and talking with people "for real " develops leaders.

Just my thoughts
Debby Beachy db

Re: Position yourself as a leader or a friend?

Post by mlsanders on Sat Mar 26, 2011 4:15 am

As my life experiences grows, I learned to position myself as a friend, first.
As a friend, you can listen, inspire and motivate people to do what they want to do.
Your orders become more of requests instead of demands. You will get better cooperation when people are willing to help you to achieve their goals.
Teaching, motivate and mentoring is all what this business is about. :idea:

Re: Position yourself as a leader or a friend?

Post by Daniel Attard on Fri Mar 25, 2011 1:11 pm

I am a leader with all my friends....both network marketing and non network marketing ;)

Daniel Attard