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[Juanita Waterman Company: SISEL International, LLC Contribution Level: 9]

I notice that some people get their rocks off correcting or criticizing in public or in the forums. What is your opinion? Do you think the person learns more by being publicly humiliated or better if done privately. I know I cringe when I see it done. If I have ever done it this is a public apology. Looking at someone correct another person publicly makes them very unattractive in my eyes. If anyone wants to critic or correct me please do it privately thanks. Just Saying

[Luanne Crawford Company: Herbalife International of America, Inc. Contribution Level: 3]

Agreed, Juanita. No one likes to be put on blast. It can be done via private email.
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[Mario Sanders Company: Life Force International Contribution Level: 6]

Normally, if it does not bother me, I let it go. What's the saying, 'don't sweat the small stuff, everything is small stuff.'
Grammatical errors can be overlooked, mispronounced names can be corrected, once. If that person continues to be in error, they will be the ones who are looked at to be corrected. They just might get their information from another source.
You are coming from the east giving direction. Their direction may be coming from the west. There are differences of opinions. Don't confuse the person asking for directions.
You would applaud a person in public, correct any errors in judgement in private.

[Charles Holmes Company: Isagenix Corporation Contribution Level: 2]

I would very seldom, if ever, correct someone in public. I believe in the "praise in public, punish in private concept." We need to let things go and not sweat the small stuff, just like Mario said.

The only exception would be in an emergency or life and death situation.

Please know I'm not timid either. In fact, I'm an Army guy who likes to speak his mind. However, you win more friends by being nice, rather than being right.

I hope that helps.

[Ceri Wood Contribution Level: 2]

I think it depends. Most things can be done via private message - although some forums don't allow you to do that or you have to have a minimum number of posts first. Sometimes it's more a differing of opinion or way of doing things, in which case, that should be on the forum itself. Sometimes you might see a post that is giving incorrect information - on that one I'm a little unsure; at least replying to the post means others are aware it is incorrect information. I do think there can be a difference in motive - for some it is about helping and for others it's about being right. On the other hand, maybe we are all too sensitive about getting something wrong.

[Joe Pariseau Company: Magnetic Sponsoring Contribution Level: 2]

I don't think it is ever fair for criticize someone in public. It defeats the purpose of making things right. Publicly correcting someone is in some ways uncivilized. You can't correct someone if you are doing it the wrong way. If you really want to help, then send a private message. Let the person do the erratum on his or her flawed post. You might even receive a "thank you" in public.


Just a thought.
Joe P.
aka Master Joeda

[Juanita Waterman Company: SISEL International, LLC Contribution Level: 9]

You Guys Rock, You helped me put the right words to what I believe too. People need approval publicly. Would you be attracted to someone you saw doing that to others?

[Pete Zafra Company: AmeriSciences Contribution Level: 3]

Great thread here. What we can do is put ourselves in the person who made the error's shoes. Would we want to be publicly criticized or corrected or would we want a private and polite correction. In my opinion, I think it's better for someone to send a private email. Correcting someone in public in my opinion kinda seems rude and I can't help the feeling of that person correcting or criticizing me being a know it all. If we do this privately on the other hand, we may even gain a new friend and respect. We all make mistakes. It's just how we live and grow. So if we see someone making a mistake, let's respect them and tell them personally instead of making others see it as well.

[Lynda Cromar Company: MyLeadSystemPRO Contribution Level: 7]

I can say from personal experience it is never constructive to do it publically. They are going to be so focused on the humiliation and embarrassment that they will miss anything that would be helpful. There are exceptions though, when there are webinars where we want constructive criticizer: I was recently on a webinar about blogging and I submitted my blog for review. But I have to say that Ray Higdon did not say or do anything that I felt was uncomfortable, but I was also okay if he found things that needed changed.

[Rick Lelchuk Contribution Level: 3]

You either come from your heart or you don't. If I get corrected by someone who is coming from their heart then it matters not where it is given. If I get corrected from a vindictive place,from trying to be superior or being a condescending know-it-all then there is no need to comment either publicly or privately.

I've changed my ways over the years having learned that heart centered contributions move the action forward into what's possible without offending anyone.

RICK