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[Judy Goldsberry Company: Vollara Contribution Level: 2]

I have been reading posts and feel compelled to write, as the last few posts I have read created a dark cloud over me. I feel like there is a cold war going on and it is creating very unattractive 'attraction marketers.'

I find that groups/people are attacking others who are posting valuable information. If we do not consider the information valuable to us, is it really necessary to vehemently attack a person because they hold a diference of opinion? We are all different what works for one may not work for another. There is no panacea in this business.

Frankly, I am scared to read more posts. Please allow people to choose.

[Ferny Ceballos Company: Numis Network Contribution Level: 4]

Hi Judy,

I think it has to do with duality. When you have a free community where people are allowed to express themselves, you get the best and worst of both worlds.

Not sure what attacks you are referring to. Could you elaborate?

-Ferny

[Connie Loeschen Contribution Level: 3]

People have strong opinions. Take what will benefit you and leave the rest.
Don't take it personally, Judy. Skim through and reject the negative.
You have a soft sensitive nature, don't change. But don't let others with a strong point of view scare you off. You are ten feet tall and bullet proof!!
Have a blessed holiday!
Connie Loeschen

[Judy Goldsberry Company: Vollara Contribution Level: 2]

Hi Judy,

I think it has to do with duality. When you have a free community where people are allowed to express themselves, you get the best and worst of both worlds.

Not sure what attacks you are referring to. Could you elaborate?

-Ferny

Thanks for responding Ferny,
I have read many of your beautifully touching posts, thanks for sharing.

Of course it may be my misinterpretation of what others are saying, though it seems to be a battle between funded proposal systems vs mentoring systems. I personally think they are both valuable systems and that they work for different kinds of people. Of course I say this to help, not to be negative, I just want people to know how they are coming across. The latter group are the ones that sound caustic.

[Ferny Ceballos Company: Numis Network Contribution Level: 4]

Hi Judy,

Could you point me to specific posts? I'd like to go in there and slap a few folks around... in a positive way of course.

love,
Ferny

[susan coils Contribution Level: 4]

I posted (or thought I had, ) a reply to this yesterday. But apparently I didn't.

However, obviously there was method in my madness, because I think I've just read the topic that you are referring to Judy. And you are right, it's not attractive.

People sometimes take things personally, when they are not meant that way. I've had occasion myself to think something was personaly, but I chose to pm the person involved. Much better than washing your dirty laundry in public - and keeps the forum a much 'nicer' place to be.

Ferny,can't pm you with the topic, (when did you escape my 'friendly' clutches? ) so have requested the connection and will pm you once it's done.

[Joyce Penner Company: Life Force International Contribution Level: 8]

Judy. I read your post with interest as I personally know a lot of people under the guise of mentoring who truly believe they have to attack every other system or company to build their system or company up as a "life saver". My experience has taught me if someone or some group is slamming something else get out, shut down, quit reading/listening etc. Network marketing is a business and should be treated the same as any regular business. If a business person is slamming a competitor ultimately he will lose as people get tired of it. Nobody needs to hear, learn, speak, listen to anyone else slam another. It's a negative way to start a wonderful career choice.
To your success,
Joyce Penner

[Melanie Kissell Contribution Level: 3]

Judy,

In my observations and estimation, attacks of any kind are hugely unproductive. I'll have to go along with Joyce's point of view and vehemently back up her remarks. Far too many coaching/mentoring programs have alterior motives and stand boldly on the platform of slamming and attacking network marketing companies and business opportunities. What purpose could that behavior possibly serve??

I don't put "up" with put "downs",

Melanie Kissell
http://melaniekissell.blogspot.com

[Daniela Riess Contribution Level: 3]

Hi Judy
People have strong opinions. And yes, attacks are unattractive.
Everyone knows that morality cannot be regulated.
We have to look at everything with a positive attitude.
Agreeing with everything is impossible and in a community we meet all types of personalities,
some are more opinionated than others.
It's nothing to be afraid of.
You already know what makes you uncomfortable,
and that will help you choose what you read from now on.
It's all business... some good and some bad just like everything else in life.
But we all have choices.

I appreciate you,
Daniela Riess

[Judy Goldsberry Company: Vollara Contribution Level: 2]

People have strong opinions. Take what will benefit you and leave the rest.
Don't take it personally, Judy. Skim through and reject the negative.
You have a soft sensitive nature, don't change. But don't let others with a strong point of view scare you off. You are ten feet tall and bullet proof!!
Have a blessed holiday!
Connie Loeschen

Dear Connie,

Thank you for taking time to respond with affirmation and advice. However, I must apologize for being so careless with my printed words. I wrote as if all could see me, and of course this is not the case with the written word. I was not personally offended, my 'being scared' was not literal, just a figure of speech. Sorry for the confusion, but thank you so much for your input, I have learned from you.

This is my first time writing in a forum, and I realise that I must be as transparent as possible and can not use such language in writing unless I am well know by my audience. I am a very positive person and rarely ever get offended.

Hope you had a wonderful Thanksgiving