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[William Nissen Company: ViSalus Sciences Contribution Level: 5]

People are not idiots...well, maybe I should say most aren't. Most can see through the fake it til you make it facade and the GURU persona. Many guru wannabees grab onto Mike Dillards main point of attracting people because they see you as an alpha- but they come across as an absolute phony. This is because they miss Mike's initial advice on the introduction...authenticity. Start with the right steps.

1. First, identify with the struggles of the reader. Be honest about your own failures. This is what most "gurus" forget to do. This helps make it "doable" for the new person.
2. Find your personal strengths that ARE REALLY YOURS. You are not going to have the same strengths as Mike Dillard- nor should you. Learn from him, but point out YOUR strengths. If you try to pretend to have the same strengths as Mike Dillard, you'll be competing with him...that would be stupid. We all have a strength we can emphasize- be authentic with it.
3. Create your "alpha status" with that strength. Mine is a pastoral strength- people are drawn by my desire to support them, knowing they will have a leader who doesn't ditch them after sign up.

Hope this clears things up for some- your comments?

Bill

[Tom Bradley Company: Herbalife International of America, Inc. Contribution Level: 3]

You are right on with your coaching to find YOUR OWN strengths and not try and mimic anyone else's.

This is where personal development is key. There is a lot of talk about your "why" and your "burning desire" but what is your philosophy? You don't have to be a wiz at generating leads from thin air or be able to recruit anyone who can fog a mirror to bring value to the community and your downline.

There are so many cliches that we come across but it really comes down to being the best you that you can be. As Jeffrey Combs says "you are enough". You don't have to know everything and in most cases people will flock to you if they feel that you are genuine.

[Chris Tryon Contribution Level: 4]

Apply the primary rule of "How to Win Friends and Influence People." People will not care about what you know,until they know how much you care about-THEM. It really is that simple.

Stop the rhetoric. Stop repeating and using the same "buzz words" as the guru's. I don't really believe that they matter all that much in larger scheme of things. Attraction marketing. Attraction to what? The people that will find you to be the most "attractive" are the ones that you make feel attractive in the first place.

Value. Make other people feel valuable to you. Then they will believe that you are valuable to them.

Give without want. Give the other person what they want without expecting anything in return and they will respond in kind.

Listen. Once again this phrase shows up. "The Lord gave you 2 ears and 1 mouth. You should listen twice as much as you talk." How do people know that you are listening? When you are asking them questions about themselves and paying attention. People will know that you are sincere. You won't have to tell them that.

[Bev Bojarski Contribution Level: 2]

William,
Thank you, I agree we should all be focusing on being the Real Person we are, with Our Strengths. When we focus on our strengths it tends to minimize our weakness. Focusing on our strengths also keeps us in the positive emotions, which when dealing with people can be crucial.

Bev Bojarski

[Ronald Chin Company: CarbonCopyPRO Contribution Level: 1]

I came across across a quotation many years ago while attending Grad.school, and i believe the principle is still true and applicable for today." His method alone will give true success,He first mingled with the people,then minister to their needs, won their confidence and then encourage them to follow Him".Notice the first thing to do is mingle. Often times we want success so bad and so fast that we overlook our audience, and quite frankly, we abuse them with a lot of fictitious information. We are candidly reminded, that we can fool some of the people some of the time, but we can't fool all the people all the time.
Notice the second step; needs are being met. When we genuinely take care of others we inevitable take care of our own needs. Yes helping someone else does have a boomerang effect.
Now take a close look at the third step, because we decided to be real and truly focus on their needs, that we found out by mingling or what is today known as F.O.R.M(Family, Occupation,Recreation and Money) here comes the natural process or what the younger generation say,"be real" They are willing to follow and there is nothing false about this Guru or no Guru. I am learning that this is all part of "Personal Branding" or establishing "YOU INC". All i know this is 100% AUTHENTIC which creates PERSONAL VALUE.

[Jim Ticehurst Contribution Level: 4]

This is an excellent post William.....
James said Be Yourself

gee...I wish that I had thought of that.....
well done all, regards Jim T.

[CJ Strayhorn Company: WebDocsNetwork Contribution Level: 2]

I agree wholeheartedly. If you try to fake it, you're going to get caught, and it can be embarrassing to say the least. Be you! No one can be you better. There is so much I don't know about this business that it's easier for me to talk about what I do know. My major talent is giving people a different way of looking at the things they already know, but seem to have forgotten. Remember. If you have been in this business for only six months, you already know more than a majority of hopeful internet entrepreneurs. To learn, you have to teach, and by teaching, you learn.

[Lawrence Bergfeld Contribution Level: 2]

I learned today from my good friend and mentor Richard Dennis in an article marketing call that if you are a newbie at writing an article go and look at the top ten authors in e-zine articles. It does not have to always be about home based business, it can be about personal development as well. You need to do keyword research and find 24 keywords through google sets & as you rewrite the experts article use those words in it. And with each line that you write always ask yourself this question of "so what?" if it does not make sense than remove it. I can forward you his training call that he did today and his description of writing an article & a blog as well to get you onto google to become number one. My blog made #1 on google following his steps. I believe that if you decide to learn from him, it will do the same thing for you.

Lawrence Bergfeld

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[Susi Gilbert Company: Magnetic Sponsoring Contribution Level: 2]

HI all--I haven't been online here at BN in a LONG time, am starting to come back.

Re the comment, possibly just above mine, that re-writing the article is illegal---yes----- but!

I've had writing professors in college give similar advice, but NOT to then PUBLISH that article or story as your own.!!! In the practice of re-writing (or highlighting verbs, action, decisions, etc) the newbie writer is (or should be) learning writing Techniques that their chosen author has already learned.

I'm assuming that that was what was meant by the person who first mentioned the re-writing exercise.

Perhaps, re the 24 keywords, if the article was originally about List Building, and you plugged in keywords about Golf, then THAT final product would not make sense! But--you'd get the "feel" for what might work by studying the sentence structure, etc. But if the keywords exactly match the chosen sample, then there well could be plagiarism issues.

Susi.

[Jym Tarrant Contribution Level: 2]

Spot on James,

"Be Yourself"

Ultimately, that's all there is too it.

But it's not always useful to see things only from an ultimate perspective. From the relative standpoint of someone who is new in this industry and hasn't yet developed strong leadership skills etc, there is an important process of becoming more than that which you already are.

In order to do that, you need to step into something you're not. It's like using training wheels to learn to ride a bike. Example: adopting the physical posture of an alpha will help you with the transition from beta to alpha, even though you haven't fully made that transition yet. Training wheels. You don't need to use them forever, they just help in the beginning.

As those outer characteristics support and increasingly meet the required inner shift, the unnatural posture or behavior or whatever either drops off or becomes integrated in a natural way.

So whilst always Being Yourself, You are always in a state of becoming. That's a reality of the human condition. At least until you're dead, or a Zen Master

Jym