Linda and Steve Stay

I was an abused mother of 5, dieing from a brain tumor that found hope, life, success and the love of my life through network marketing. 

Here is my story:

The minute I looked into my first baby's eyes, I knew I could never hand him over to be raised by someone else while I went to work to provide for our family.

This presented a dilemma as, at the time, I did not have the luxury of a husband who was willing or capable of bringing in the income we needed. Thanks to an overly optimistic father who taught me I could do or have anything I set my mind on, I began the search for ways I could support and be home to raise my family.

I did everything from:

- piece work for a wedding catalog, working until 2am after babies were asleep.

- vacuum sales, (I desperately needed a bathroom put in so I sold 16 vacuums my first month breaking all their records…. that gave me the $3,000 I needed… then I quit)

- school bus driver

- diet counseling.

Anything I could to be a “stay at home” mom.

In the late 80's, I opened a lollipop factory and it was amazing how quickly that business boomed. In a short time I had numerous employees, (which is always a huge pain), had paid off the $80,000 FDA kitchen and had maxed out the operation. I was living the supposed "American Dream", owning my own business.

Trouble was nobody prepared me for the huge cost with overhead, wages, employee taxes, workman's comp and so on and so on. Not to mention the commitment to be there 24/7. I had very little time away from the factory. But it did provide a living and a way for me to have the children with me. It became a family affair.

I had been taught that the way to make more money was to work harder. Like many in my situation, I was burning the candle at both ends, hardly taking time to breathe. I had opened an Antique Boutique and Scrap Booking store. I was very involved with my church, working 2 days a week with the youth and by now I had five very talented children involved in dance, piano and sports.

I was the ultimate human-"doing" and very little human-"being"

I had been taught pretty good coping skills, (my ultra optimistic father) i.e. "just take one day at a time" or "pull yourself up by the bootstraps and keep on going" or "just give thanks and it will all work out".

I understand now that as humans we deal with stress and emotions in 3 different ways.

1. – Suppress or Hide, the most harmful to the mind and the body, causing a build-up and usually explosion.

2. – Express or Vent. I was much too nice a person to vent, that would show lack of control. This does not eliminate the feeling, it only relieves the pressure….for a time.

3. – Escape or Cope. We turn on the TV, play music, have a drink or go running, (literally running away from something). This doesn’t work either. The feeling is still there, it just goes underground.

From the outside looking in, it appeared I was dealing with the stress remarkably well. In reality, "coping" and pushing through each day is not "dealing" with. It is hiding from or pushing it to the back of the mind so as not to look at it.

I learned that you can get away with that only for so long. At some point the stress and anxiety, if not released from the body, will manifest in some other way. For me it came in the form a brain tumor.

I was diagnosed in the midst of training for a marathon. I thought I was in the best physical shape of my life, yet emotionally I was “running” from everything that was amiss in my life….an abusive husband….my lack of self-esteem…my fear.

I was put on medications that completely disabled me, of which I was told I would have to remain on the rest of my life. Life as I knew it was gone. And for someone who's self-image was tied to how much I could get done in a day, this was devastating. As quickly as my business had grown, it fell apart. When you don't supply your distributors, you don't make money. The income was gone and the bills were pouring in.

It was at that time that I was introduced to Network Marketing. YUCK, something I swore I would never do. I was in a very hopeless and desperate place. My gut told me I needed that company's product. I could not ignore that nagging feeling. So I followed my intuition and humbly borrowed the money to get involved from a friends credit card. I only wanted to make enough money to pay back my friend and stay on the product. So I set to work, the only thing I knew to do. That business took off and within 8 weeks I was making $1,000/week and by the end of my first year I had made over $100,000.

It changed my mind about network marketing!

During that next year the brain tumor was out of control, partly because I felt so responsible for the success of every single one of my distributors. Besides traveling all over the country trying to help everyone; I was in and out of the hospital; took two trips to Mexico to seek alternative treatments not available in the United States; my 14 year old son, (the oldest of the five), had a horse roll over on him breaking his back in three places…. and obviously I was not able to work my new business at all, yet my income, doubled!

The doctors told me I had to "DE-STRESS" my life or I would die. I felt like saying "Duh!" As you all know, that is so much easier said than done! I was in a 20 year long abusive relationship that I somehow finally found the strength to break myself free of. I threw what I could in big garbage bags, took my 5 children from their beds at 4 o'clock in the morning and ran away. I left the house, furniture, clothes and the state to start over and heal.

I was able to do that because of the residual income that I had created, a concept I didn't really understand until then. Every Friday for over a dozen years a check has been deposited into my account. I never had to worry about finding a job or how I would get the next gallon of milk or how I would be able to support my children when I was not in a position of health to work. I wasn't "all better" but I was now free to take care of me, to get the help I needed to heal.

Looking back, I realize why I stayed so long. First, I thought I could fix it, love it all better, keep a positive attitude. Failure was not an option. Second, fear of a life outside of how I had pictured it to be, the perfect American happy family. Being a divorced, “sick”, single mom of five that everyone felt sorry for was not how I wanted it to be. Money had also been a reason to stay. I could not possibly support everyone by myself… especially with a brain tumor. The residual income from that “dreaded network marketing” gave me the freedom and the options to leave when I had to. I am forever grateful.

I would have given my right arm to have had a new and powerful technique I am willing to share with you. It has been and continues to be a true life saver for me. To be able to release the stress from my body, in just a moment and feel the peace and security that comes with it. Thus leaving me free to be creative and productive and attract whatever I desire.

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I hope that none of you ever have a brain tumor. I pray that none of you are being abused. But I'll bet there are those of you that are already working two jobs and still not making ends meet. I'll bet there are women reading this that dread dropping their children off at the daycare, but have no choice. You may feel trapped and discouraged. I promise that what we can offer you is hope, less stress, more time and financial security. Let's get started TODAY. It won't be long until we will shout for joy in celebration of your success!